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Just Said Yes April 2015

Excluding Kids from the Wedding Politely?

Brandi, on January 11, 2015 at 4:57 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

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Hi Brides!

I don't want kids to attend my wedding and luckily for me I'm young and most of my friends don't have kids and those who do would welcome a night off from their children. However, some of FH's guests do have kids and I'm pretty sure they plan on bringing them (we attended another wedding they were invited to and they brought their 2 kids, ages 5 and 7). Normally I would just approach said guests and hint that they should hire a babysitter, but it should be noted that these particular guests are my FH's bosses. It's a small business and everyone is very close, but I think this couple would be offended or not attend all together if we told them they couldn't bring their kids.

Is there a polite way to handle this? Maybe putting it on the invitation (they haven't been sent yet)? Or should I just let the kids attend?

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Latest activity by karebear87, on January 11, 2015 at 5:35 PM

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Arena · on January 11, 2015 at 5:05 PM
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Just put on the invitation Mr. and Mrs. Guest. That means only the parents. If you put Guest Family, that means the kids are invited. I've been doing it as well. I think the only kids invited to my wedding is the ring bearer and flower girl. But my guests actually DON'T want their kids in the wedding. They want to go out and drink and go crazy lol so I don't have to worry about that. Maybe your guests want to have a night off away from the kids too.
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KitandKaboodle · on January 11, 2015 at 5:13 PM
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We are having an adult only ceremony and reception as well and have learned, as far as most parents are concerned, there really is no polite way of telling them their children are not invited. We, along with our parents and bridal party, have advised the ceremony and reception are adult only, however, we are also doing the following:

1. Inviting Mr. & Mrs. John Smith to the wedding
2. Noting on the Reception card inviting them to our adult only Cocktail Hour and Reception
3. Noting on the RSVP card 2 seats have been reserved for you
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Super February 2015
B-2-Z · on January 11, 2015 at 5:21 PM
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We put a line for each guest, and made sure there was only two spaces in it for each adult couple, with "we have reserved 2 seats in your honor." Everyone got the point. Another option is to put "adult reception to follow."
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Celia Milton · on January 11, 2015 at 5:24 PM
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Search this here; there is a post about every week about this. It is YOUR call, not theirs. Every piece of advice above applies. And have it on your wedding website too.
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karebear87 · on January 11, 2015 at 5:35 PM
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Most people should know that if you don't put "and family" on the invite it means no kids.

For the other people that don't apply to that statement, I asked FIL's to spread the word, so that people wouldn't be shocked when they get the invite or bring their kids to wedding anyway.
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