exboyfriend as groomsmen

He isn't an ex husband and since y'all were only 15 I wouldn't really "count" him as a serious BF. If you and your FH are that close to him then I don't see the big deal.

This is one of those exceptions to, "NEVER INVITE EXES TO YOUR WEDDING." This guy is your best friend, and you HAPPEN to have dated him for a bit in high school. But the main thing is that he's your best friend.

I agree. Let him come.

Yea, he's good. My ex bf from HS and I are still extremely close and I'm setting him up with a friend of mine at my wedding. My son's biodad will also be there to take my son away for video games after dinner.

I think it's completely fine, you were 15-that's a long time ago. My husband is actually one of my best friend's ex's. I met him through her. They still are good friends and hang out with or without me. She was my matron of honor and her husband was a groomsman in our wedding.

As long as it's platonic and he doesn't harbor secret feelings for you, I don't see a problem.

You were 15, I think this one answers itself.

It really depends on how your FH truly feels about it and I think it's important to get out his true feelings. I know if I had ever slept with the guy I think the boundaries there are crossed and he shouldn't be there.

If your FH doesn't have a problem with him being in the wedding, then he should be a groomsman

Yeah I agree with the others. You were 15. If he's your best friend I see nothing wrong with him being in the wedding, as long as your FH truly doesn't have a problem with it.

I'm in a similar situation. (The ex is a female.... yes.. it was during those college.. trying to find yourself years) and she lives far away but if she didn't... I know we'd be best friends. We still stay in contact and she is a great person.

The FH is completely 100% phobic of the idea, of her, and anything to do with it. I want her there, he doesn't, she feels uncomfortable for making him uncomfortable.... that whole situation just frustrates me...because even though I just see her as a friend - he sees her as an ex. its been 10 years, we both have moved on (and have dated men since, btw) so it irritates me that he sees her as such a threat.

In your situation, as long as you are both comfortable with it... and its obviously important to you that he be there ... you should do what you want to do. Screw the etiquette.

I think you should wait until making any decisions, your wedding is over 2 years away, a lot can change by then.

See who sticks by you and fh through everything else, and then decide.

1) You are getting married in 2 years. Revisit this issue next year.

2) No one on here can truly comment on this since we don't know your relationship with this person. Everyone is saying it's ok because you were only 15. Well I don't know how old you are now. What if you are 20? That would be quite odd.

3) I think the whole thing is a bit weird, but whatever.

One of my bridesmaids is my fiance's ex-girlfriend.

No one sees any problem with it from the perspectives of my family and his family

Our friends think its hysterical

Do what you want - invite him to the wedding and such - you were 15 and ended (I'm assuming) years ago...

Haha some comments made me laugh and others helped me a lot so thanks girls! Btw I am 24

And Katie your comment made me laugh but I see the situation, I also eent through something like it and my FH also hated the idea of me being friend with the girl..we are not close anymore but when we were still friend he couldn't stand the idea of me even going to the movies with her. I think for him is like: "well I can compete with another men but not with a woman...its a hole different situation they don't know how ti deal with it. But in my case with my ex, he is friend with my FH and they get along fine, he even expressed the idea of including him as a GM, so I know it will not be an issue with him because after all it is OUR wedding day and I wouldn't do anything to make my "husband" uncomfortable in such a special day for BOTH. maybe for another occacion :/ hope this helps