Ex Sister In Law Is Trying To...

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Her response was “Well, I’m family, so just send me the info so I can plan my travel arrangements.” Again…gurl, WHAT??!! Umh, no. Yes, you are my adult kids aunt, but other than that, there is no reason why you should want to attend my wedding. We aren’t close, we don’t communicate, we barely spent time together when I was married into the family. My marriage to your brother ended horribly, lol. Please, somebody, anybody, give me some advice on how to make it go away. I’m concerned she’ll attempt to show up anyway (from 12 hours away) and expect me to host her, she’s being that insistent…BTW, I tried NO. she didn’t hear it.

Yikes, that is weird. i'd probably just ignore her texts about the wedding from now on. hopefully she will get the hint. does your venue have security?

It sounds like she is just super nosey! I would just cut off all communication with her and try to ensure she doesn't get any other wedding details (make sure your close family and friends know not to share any of that information). If she doesn't get an invitation and doesn't know where and when to go, then it will just work itself out without you having to give it anymore energy. But seriously, how dense can someone be! Haha

This is a super simple fix, block her on all social media sites and block her from being able to text message or call your phone.

In this case, I'd respond with a good, firm "You're not invited" and drop the subject. Repeat as needed. Given the circumstances, and the fact that you're not trying to maintain a relationship with her (and who can blame you for that?), there's no need to sugar coat it . It's okay to be blunt. :-)

Not available through them. My BIL has offered to sit at the door with my hostesses (two teenagers) in case they need some assistance, but that's it. We felt like somebody would have to be really determined to crash since the location is not local to anyone. But she seems really determined.

Just block her. I wouldn't have even answered the first messages about it.

If she shows up, your coordinator may be able to show them the door. You can always hire security.

Nee Nee Leakes says handle it like this

Make sure you block her and all of the ex-In Laws on Facebook to make it harder for them to get info about your wedding.

I agree. I'd block her on every site and on my cell.

Yep, sounds like you've got so be blocking to do!

Very weird. No is a full sentence. If she still doesn't get it, stop responding and advise any mutual friends (if there are any) NOT to discuss your wedding with her to prevent her from obtaining the info.

@Sarah, not to me. But through my kids, and FH is linked to them as well. So anything he posts, they can see and like or comment or whatever and apparently, she can see THAT info. But blocking her from texts and calls is a good idea. I've always been hesitant to do that to anybody but in this case, I can make an exception. If I'm supposed to know something, my kids can tell me.

Whoa! First, I would stop answering her messages. Secondly, the adult children need to stay mum on your details (a conversation is needed). Lastly, if she insist on coming, please arrange for someone to escort her off the premises.

Block her on all forms of communication and instruct your adult kids not to tell her anything about the wedding.

Definitely put a password on your website! Ask mutuals to not discuss your wedding on social media. I can't believe how crazy some people are

@OP I thought i was the only one going through this literally at least once a week my ex in laws ask where thier invite to the wedding is and i am like no but they dont get it i keep feeling like they will just show up to wedding

Seriously, I'd just say "you're not invited." No sorry, no excuses. She doesn't seem like she's going to back off, so you're going to have to be blunt here.

I have a good relationship with my ex FIL (now after 7 years of crazy drama and the death of my exMIL later) I didn't want to invite him, though he would be welcome, to really not have to explain to FHs family (whom he loves more than my ex). Just all around awkward.

@Deanna I know! Like, why would I want to taint my new beginning with a living breathing reminder of my unfortunate past? I just don't get the thought process here. To me, it's like slapping FH in the face, even if I was friendly with her.