ex mother in law

Hmmm that's a weird situation to be in.. Do you feel she would understand ur FH feelings if you expressed them to her? Would u verbalize them to her?

If your fiancé doesn't want her there, she shouldn't be at either.

I think it would be weird to have someone invited only to the reception, period. If your FH is uncomfortable,

I don't think she should be a part of this at all

Please change your picture from double rings to a picture.

You already invited her to the reception, so now you're going to be in an awkward position either way. In this case, I think it is very odd she's only invited to the reception. You've already invited her though, and retracting said invite isn't any better. So you're either going to have to leave it as it is, or invite her to the ceremony as well and have a conversation with FH about it.

I think you should think how your feelings might be if it were vice versa.... Your EX husbands family should attend their own functions.... That's kinda like having your old life coming in your new one.

How did you invite her to only the reception? Did you have a special invitation printed just for her. However you did it, it's weird that she's only invited to that part, but if your FH is uncomfortable with it then I wouldn't invite her to any of it.

I'd talk to my FH and find out why he didn't want her there. Once you spend years with someone, there family *should become your family... even though it doesn't always happen that way :\ If, my ex MIL wanted to come, and we had been close, I personally wouldn't see a problem with it. We're all adults here, sometimes no matter how much we want something to work out, it just doesn't. It doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you or him, and she probably recognizes that, and just wants to see her "daughter" happy... just as she I am sure wants her son to be one day. Honestly, I'd be touched she cared about me that deeply, and would have a hard time rebuking her. That's why I say have a heart to heart with DH, and get down to the heart of the matter... work from there, and if this is something that really means a lot to you, you need to voice that to him too.

I'm sorry but this is weird to me. I'm glad you get along with them but I would feel super shitty about this if I were your FH. I would feel weird about this as your ex too. I, personally, don't get it. I also thing you should've considered your FHs feelings when you invited her to any part of the event.

I also get along great with my exes family. Better than he does. That said, Im not inviting them out of respect for my FH. But, I also dont think Id have a problem if he was close with his exes family and wanted them to come.... if I did I would hope he would respect my feelings on it enough to not have them there.

Did your FH express being uncomfortable? I would be clear with everyone so no one takes anything out of context. That is a sticky situation

My ex mother in law told me the other day she wished I would have invited her, I didn't even think about it. I think if fh is uncomfortable you have to take that into consideration.

I don't think it's appropriate, even if you get a long well with her. :-/ your FH shouldn't have to feel uncomfortable on his wedding day.

You shouldn't have invited her if you knew your FH wasn't comfortable with it.

FH is fine with her at the reception. We are having a small ceremony then a larger reception. It is a weird situation but if it was turned around I really wouldn't mind.

I guess if he is fine with it, ok; but, this is a very strange situation.

This makes me thankful that DH didn't want to invite any of his ex-inlaws.