Ex Girlfriend #cousin from my Fiance

Is that typical in your country for cousins to date?

View Quoted Comment I was confused about that too. And are “the kids” the fiancé’s children with his cousin?? Also incredibly confused and alarmed about people literally ending the life of a woman because of a broken hip!?

Wait. What?

I'm confused as well. Is your fiancé's ex-girlfriend also his cousin? I'm also confused why someone would end another person's life over a broken hip. This whole situation makes no sense.

First off… Maybe I’m just reading this wrong… His cousin is also his ex girlfriend? What country are you from?

View Quoted Comment Oh good it’s not just me.... I thought I was reading it wrong

View Quoted Comment No. My fiancé is American.

View Quoted Comment No. The kids is not my fiancé children, it’s his cousin/ex girlfriend... and about the broken hip it’s because she is 95 and the doctors cannot do anything to help grandma. She has lots of health issues, so they are treating her, but she is not going to make it...

View Quoted Comment The broken hip it’s because she is 95 and the doctors cannot do anything to help grandma. She has lots of health issues, so they are treating her, but she is not going to make it...


And yes, my fiancé ex girlfriend is his cousin..

View Quoted Comment I am from Brazil, but my fiancé is American.
His ex girlfriend is his cousin

North Carolina

View Quoted Comment Is there any backstory to this? Like did you not know they were cousins or something? Or did he just willingly date his cousin? It must be really scary being in a country without any Friends. You can feel free to DM me anytime to talk, but don’t you think it’s a bit strange that he dated his cousin? Also, I’m assuming his grandmother would be eligible for Medicaid due to her age so medical bills wouldn’t really be an issue with her surgery for her broken hip. I’m curious to know what state is approving assisted suicide? I wasn’t aware that any state has this law in place? Anyhow, I think there might be a bigger issue here. Definitely an elephant in the room and it’s not really so much to do with your jealousy, it’s to do with the fact that he Dated his cousin. How did you meet him? Do you feel like he’s the right guy?

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Is there a reason your fiancé dated this cousin because this is definitely not normal? I would be concerned that my fiancé thought this was normal or even healthy for him to have been in a relationship with a family member.

View Quoted Comment I met him through Match.com a few years ago and we started dating, I discovered he dated his cousin maybe last year because he kept swinging around not answering my questions because I am very jealous (by the way, he still have pictures of her in the file cabinet, when I discovered, I raised hell for weeks and now I just Ignore, because I am tired of arguing and not having any change) - his family don’t have close contact with the cousin that he dated, but since grandma broke her hip a few days ago and the doctor/nurses said she will no going to be able to handle the surgery, they are treating her home with some medical taking care of grandma everyday, but she is very week right now having heart problems and health issues before (she’s being very sick for years) and right now she is in morphine to not feel pain and not even answering/talking/moving with anybody. And yesterday, we decided to go to his mom’s house to see if they need anything, we got hospital bed and transferred grandma to the new bed etc, and by chance his cousin with the children (23 & 16) came by to see how grandma was, until that I was fine, putting my feelings apart and not considering any kind of jealousy because didn’t had any thing there - and after some time, everybody went inside and my fiancé mom was asking him to go get some plastic chair in the trailer to comfort people to seat, and by that... he said stay here and went to take the chairs, that was okay. After 30 minutes he was still in the room talking with ex girlfriend/her children and some ant of some sort and I went after him, because was taking to long and he said for me not to go there... anyways. Until there was okay, but my fiancé kept being “too nice” and talking with his ex/cousin and I started playing nice and talking also, but was so awkward that I felt so bad..

View Quoted Comment I never talked about that with him. I prefer not knowing than knowing and get aggravated.. she is not part of his life anymore... they don’t have contacted

Yes, the hospice is taking care of her at the house.

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Is she a first, second, third cousin?
Are they biological cousins? If not, is it through marriage?

I am awaiting some answers before I give any feedback on this situation. In regards to grandma and her health, if her health has gone downhill, I am not surprised. Make her as comfortable as possible at the end of her time here on earth.

View Quoted Comment Yes, very common practice here in the US. Especially with her co-morbidities, they refuse to perform surgery. So morphine it is.


However, your relationship/his past is not a common practice in the US and is highly frowned upon if not illegal in some states. I would be questioning his character. I wish you the best.

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Well it's so not normal that he dated his cousin and it would make really question his morals. I can't think of a single person that would ever even consider dating a family member.

View Quoted Comment Yes, it’s cousin through marriage of his mom
It’s niece of his stepdad.

Yes, we are doing everything we can with grandma because they gave her just these week... (sorry my English)