Everything is going wrong

Take a breath!! It will be just fine! Those are things that thankfully you have plenty of time to fix better for your photographer to cancel now than right before the wedding...now you can vet someone else that you trust to do the job. your dress shop should be willing to fix the dress issue if it really was their fault..have the BM dresses arrived? If not ask if you can cancel order and use funds to put towards the correct dress from the same store? I'm sorry your planning is off to a tough start--but it will be okay. Things happen, mistakes get made. nut at the end of all this planning you will be happily married- keep your eye on the prize!

This is where you need wedding planer. Trusted aunt ,someone. I have mature cousins who want only to make it all about me. Shame on them. Whose party is it? Get firm have them return. I'm doing is not match matchy. Each BM wears her personality in style but in MY color choices.

Breathe! If it makes you feel ANY better, my wedding is in a month. My BM dresses didn't come in until two weeks ago. I noticed something wasn't right when I tried it on for one of my out of state BM and I could see my underwear. Turns out the dresses were made with two layers instead of the three and since they are blush it makes a big difference. The dresses had to be reordered and won't arrive until March 13th (10 days before the wedding) since two girls don't live here the shop is altering them the DAY before of course I feel stressed about it but my point is things could be worse and you have plenty of time to correct these issues. At the end of the day we are getting married (!!!) and what seem like big issues right now won't really matter. Like PP said keep your eye on the prize! Everything will work out for you!

Why would they order dresses without discussing it with you? Your dress can be fixed. I know it's stressful but, it'll work out.

If it makes you feel better, my MUA cancelled on me at 3pm the day before my wedding. I had to go with one I had never met and only saw her work on fb. She ended up being amazing and was so much more professional than my original MUA.

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Well my bridesmaid just straight up didn't order her dress, never told me. I had to ask her what she planned to do when I found out the fabric had been discontinued and all my other BMs had ordered theirs months prior, before the suggested cutoff.

Now she's somehow half-bridesmaid half-guest because everything got really awkward and I didn't have the directness or boldness I should have when she still invited herself to the rehearsal dinner with her husband and daughter... I guess to watch us rehearse? Or when she really wanted to be a part of the hanging out/getting ready portion of the day. Now I have like $100 of gifts for her that I had bought WAAAAY before the dress debacle (to thank these ladies for the time and cost of being in my wedding, of course) and since she's showing up to dinner and getting ready with us I guess I have to give them to her...also one is monogrammed (thought it would be nice since she just got married and has new initials).

So, you could have that. At least your ladies cared enough to order a dress in the first place?

@ENG That's horrible I'm so sorry.

I think it's pretty messed up your BMs ordered their dresses without your input. Especially the color. The color is supposed to go with your color scheme!

Don't worry too much about your dress or the photographer. You have time to fix those!

I'm sorry Katie The silver lining is at least you have time to fix these things!

1) Get your deposit back from your photographer and start looking for a new one ASAP!

https://www.weddingwire.com/shared/search?cid=10&geo=Sweet+Home%2C+OR&page=1&sort=1&view_type=photo&wedding_date=08%2F19%2F2017

2) The dress shop needs to reorder your dress if it came in in the wrong color. Do you have a copy of the order or receipt to show which color you ordered? Also - how badly does the dress not fit (like wrong size, or needs to be hemmed and taken in a little)? All wedding dresses need somealterations! While the shop does take your individual measurements, they then place a dress order to your closest size. Unless you're having a fully custom dress made, it will not be made to your measurements.

3) Not sure what happened with your bridesmaids, but if they ordered the wrong dresses without asking you then that's on them! I'd email your bridesmaids the details on what the right dress actually is!

What happens when you have a seamstress make all your girls dresses and the day of the wedding none of them are wearable.......

You have PLENTY of time dear. You are working with professionals. Everything will be fine. Start now picking up the pieces.

LOL Pia, I was in a wedding once where the bride made our dresses--OY PEPETO!

My mom did her best to un-assemble and resew them but there wasn't much to be done.

Thanks for the memory

Hang in there Katie! Maybe take a few days off from planning so your stress doesn't snowball and keep you from thinking clearly about solutions.

Thank you all for your stories. I guess my bridesmaids thought they knew what I wanted, and wanted to surprise me.. ugh not good surprise. Dresses are not returnable. Sorry I haven't been able to respond, life is crazy with 4 small children.