So we are 58 days out and I'm getting more and more stressed by the minute. Good things that are coming up is I have my second fitting on Thursday and my grams will finally get to see the dress in person. My gown is more beautiful than ever and I am thrilled. My bridal shower is on Sunday and I can't wait and nearly half of my guest list has already RSVPd, plus I get to see my centerpieces sometime in the next two weeks.
With all these good things, also comes the stress. One of my bridesmaids dropped out a couple of months ago after causing unneeded drama (which was fine). She told me she couldn't afford the dress to which I was completely understanding. She then fought with her boyfriend (the best man) over it and said she wasn't being a bridesmaid because she didn't like the dress. She has ignored all contact with me, refuses to hang out with us together and is trying to create a wedge between my fiancé and his best man. She also decided she wasn't going to come to the bridal shower and had someone else RSVP for her instead of being an adult and doing it herself. I am trying not to let it all bother me, because I can't control the actions of others. But it is rubbing my bridal party the wrong way.
My FMIL, who I love to pieces, and has graciously paid for our photographer and florist without us asking, is stressing me a little bit. My sister and cousin (MOH and BM) are hosting my shower, and she is asking them to do seating arrangements and place her next to me. My sister has been really nice about it because she really likes my FMIL too, but she doesn't know how to help her understand that a lot of my family I don't see often will be there and will want to be around me as well. Also, she keeps stressing me about seating arrangements at the wedding. I refuse to look at a seating chart until I have all of my RSVPs; but she refuses to sit with her husbands sisters, and in turn he refuses to sit with her sister and brother. Plus my FSIL doesn't want to sit with one of their aunts and I have to keep my brother and sister far apart as well. My brother and sister is not the issue, as the family is big enough, and they know how to be cordial. But I'm having a hard time getting my FMIL to understand that while her daughter had a 150 person wedding last year, we are having less than half that, and I don't have that many places to put people. So..she and my FFIL are probably going to have to suck it up and sit with each other's siblings.
I guess I don't really need advice, but it's good to get it out to people who understand!!
Thanks for listening 
