Everyone else's opinion

If they ask about plans just tell them that you havent actually decided anything yet. That seems to be the only thing that has worked for me. Usually, as soon as I say, oh no, we haven't set a date, the questions stop.

Just minimize what details you reveal to people. They bring it up, change the topic. ''Oh, we're still figuring it out. So how is everything at work?''

If they suggest something nod, smile, and thank them for the idea. Then change the topic. They can't control anything if you don't let them. I have been there, done that. It gets very frustrating, but if you minimize wedding talk with those people its a lot easier.

I think those example responses you gave are too passive. As it is, when you say you don't care about X, you're just inviting people to convince you of the importance of X.

I'm guessing you have opinions about most of the details with your wedding, I don't believe that "you don't care" or "it doesn't matter". Maybe instead go with something that shows you have thought about X and consciously decided to do it a different way.

Ex: "Yes, baby's breath can be beautiful, but we've decided not to use it in our bouquets."

I have the same problem too, the best answer is to say 'thank you for the idea I will definitely think about it." Sometimes when diplomacy does not work, in the face critics who tell you that you have to do XYZ or the wedding will be awful, the guests will be very uncomfortable, the reception will look cheesy, your idea is tacky or whatever; then I tell them, its my wedding, my way, and work on changing the subject, I am so stressed about the wedding I don't want to think about it right now, how was your weekend?

My general opinion about the majority of the wedding: what is the least painful and still cheap route for X? Ok, that sounds good. Almost all details I never thought about before I got engaged, and am not doing. A few others (like what to wear) must happen, but I'm going the minimal suffering route.

The thing I care the most about is the food. I want good food, some weddings have downright terrible food. I'll be cooking all of the food and my mom will be making the cakes. I love cooking and it's what I do when I'm stressed.

It sucks. I had a girl I have talked to maybe 4 times in 5 years all of sudden act like my best friend when she found out we were engaged... Now, she's messaging me on Facebook alll the time, sending me links to venues, pictures of dresses, and making sure i know that her cousin makes invitations, blah, blah, blah...