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Jessie
Expert August 2017

Everybody stand up!

Jessie, on July 7, 2017 at 1:13 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 31

During a ceremony, do you like being told to please rise for the bride? This is after the bridal party has already processed in. I wasn't planning on having our officiant say anything because I figured everyone would already know to stand when the music changes and everyone else has entered. But I...

During a ceremony, do you like being told to please rise for the bride? This is after the bridal party has already processed in. I wasn't planning on having our officiant say anything because I figured everyone would already know to stand when the music changes and everyone else has entered. But I was watching old episodes of Four Weddings the other day and I noticed that all the officiants said "Please rise." Our officiant says it's fine either way, but I'm wondering what people prefer, as guests?

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  • Christinanyc
    Master December 2016
    Christinanyc ·
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    I wish I requested for our officiant to say that (Idk why but it totally went over my head and I thought that it was an automatic gesture to stand up for the bride. Everyone was sitting when I walked down the aisle and I felt bad about it.

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  • SAK2SAH
    Super October 2017
    SAK2SAH ·
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    My fh just officiated his first wedding a few weeks ago. He made sure to put in his program notes to say please rise for the bride, and let the guests know they could be seated. At the end of the ceremony (upon request of the bride, when customizing the ceremony) he didn't tell the guests to rise as the bride and groom exited, so half the guests were sitting and half standing. No one will recall being told to stand or sit when they think about your wedding (unless they were involved in the planning). If you prefer them to stand, just have them be directed to stand.

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  • PennysMom
    Expert September 2018
    PennysMom ·
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    Never been told to "please rise". Just did it anyway.

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  • Jacky
    Master June 2017
    Jacky ·
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    If theres no announcement, you'll have people standing and people sitting, and that's awkward and disorganized. There always needs to be an announcement, even if it is common knowledge to stand.

    If your officient is experienced, then they would know to announce it without being discussed.

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  • Brittney
    Expert June 2018
    Brittney ·
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    Most weddings I've been to, the officiant didn't say it. Everyone just knows to stand. I can't imagine why people would ever assume they should remain seated.

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  • Nancy Taussig
    Nancy Taussig ·
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    I always say, "Please rise" and then "Please be seated" -- unless, of course, it is a standing ceremony on the beach.

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  • AprilR
    VIP May 2018
    AprilR ·
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    As a guest, I hate when people rise because I'm too short to see anything and have always missed the bride walking down because of it. I'm going to request at our wedding that everyone remains sitting so no one can miss out because of their height

    ETA: words

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  • #FitzforaKing
    Dedicated August 2017
    #FitzforaKing ·
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    A bigger concern would be for the officiant to say 'please be seated'. All weddings I've been to the guests stand whether or not they're told to. But I have been to some weddings where we are standing and no one sits down. And then it gets awkward- like you don't want to be the first to sit.

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  • Natalie
    Super September 2017
    Natalie ·
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    I like when it's announced to please stand

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  • ZimWifey
    Expert November 2017
    ZimWifey ·
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    Wow, I thought everyone knew to stand. I guess it depends on your crowd but everyone is usually eager to see the bride so, they stand.

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  • Taylor
    Super October 2017
    Taylor ·
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    I was just at a wedding and everyone stood and wasn't asked to

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