Etiquette when inviting couples

Normally if a couple has been together a long time and/or live together both people get invited. Maybe they are on a really tight budget or just did not know how to address the invitation properly.

Maybe they knew he would not be able to attend so it was just an invite to let him know he wasnt being forgot about?

Dks64 it would bother me to. At your ? Etiquette or not unless there on a severe tight budget or didn't think both of you could make it I would be irate at that fact that both wouldn't be invited. Well unless they didn't like you or whatever the personal reason maybe. My FH and I been together 11 yrs living together for 6 I would be upset. But since neither one of you are going then don't let it bother you to much. But I guess this one is not in the "rule" book.

Sara - I'm pretty sure his friend is really hoping he'll be there, they were close in high school. My guy is going to try and make it, but it's not likely he can get the weekend off (military) and afford to fly out there.

Jessica - Even if I knew both parties couldn't make it, I would still send the invite to both just so no one would feel left out. I'm sure it wasn't a dislike for me, I'm very neutral and try not to scare people when I meet them I'm not 100% sure they know we're living together... but it seems like if that were the case, they would have asked, especially since my guy moved out of state and out of his Mom's house.

Living together is technically considered a "social unit" like being engaged or married. Soooo yep, unless they are inviting wives without husbands and people without their fiances too, then you should have been invited, name on the inner envelope and everything

There could be a lot of reasons why your name was left off:

- Extremely tight budget, and only marrieds get the "plus one."

- How many times/how long ago have you met this couple? Perhaps the groom could not remember your name? And neither could the bride? Or the person completing the guest list (who might have been some one other than the couple), but they had your FH's name.

- This is more of a "wanting to let you we're getting married" invitation, because perhaps the groom suspects your FH might not be able to make it.

- Perhaps these are just really rude people.

In today's age, many people eschew different points of etiquette, depending on what is convenient for them, or out of simple ignorance. (just think RSVP's!) I wouldn't hold it against them.

I agree with Michele--There are plenty of situations which proper ettiquete doesn't account for. And considering you barely know them and they live 2000 miles away, I don't think it's anything to let bother you.

They could have just asumed that you were going to come. it happened to me and my FH. his cousin sent him the invite, but he knew i would be coming with him, so it wasn't an insult it was more of the fact that i'm always with him and he knew he would bring me.

I definitely don't think they're rude people and I'm giving them the benefit of the doubt that they just didn't remember me or didn't realize we lived together. That's why I'm not mad or upset, just a little disappointed, I guess. Part of the excitement of living together is being considered a social unit. Money is definitely not an issue too. My name is on his MySpace account (where they're friends), so that's not a reason. Plus, he would have sent my guy a text asking for it (they text regularly). Maybe they were just trying to keep the list down and since we weren't married, thought it was okay to not invite. Not sure.

Latasha - Honestly, I don't think so. If it was a close family friend or relative, maybe, but not in this case.

Well, I personally would say yes, it should of been addressed to the both of you, especially since a) you've been together quite some time b) they know you and ESPECIALLY should of invited you because you two are engaged. Glad you're not upset about it though!

We're unofficially engaged, but definitely a long term couple. We've been together longer than the B&G by at least 2 years. All of my guys friends know me, so I'm not a stranger to the people in that particular friend group.