Etiquette on Officiant Accommodations?

My best friend is a BM and her husband is our officiant. I have been very open with them about picking up their accommodations. They have 4 kids and have very communicative with them.. I didn't care if they brought non or all, but 2 people verses 6 people is a BIG difference in terms of hotel room size, people at the rehearsal and assigned seating for the wedding reception. I say you are more than okay with asking the details for planning purposes!!

Are you paying your cousin to be your officiant? If so, I would ask him if the price includes the travel expenses. If not, I would cover his accommodations.

Once you've figured out if you're covering his hotel costs, I would text and ask if he plans on bringing the kids so you can ensure that you book a large enough room for them. He may decide that he'd rather this be an event just for him and his wife!

Exactly!! The rehearsal dinner is going to be more expensive than anticipated because we have a huge wedding party. Three people will make a decent difference. lol Of course, they're welcome to come though. Just need some guidance to be adequately prepared! I'll text and ask!

It was honestly never established. He's the preacher at our sister church back home so regardless, we'll give him SOMETHING but I don't think he would realistically charge me anything. He jokingly said he would love to stay in the new hotel that the university built (they're Aggies like me) so I'm thinking they're expecting us to cover the hotel, which is completely fine!

I would include his wife & kids, but I think texting him to confirm prior to reserving the room is totally fine.