Etiquette on announcing elopement style wedding?

Announcements are normally sent the day of the wedding. I think waiting for photos seems kind of awish.

The lease obnoxious thing to do is either skip sending announcements or send them the day of the wedding announcing your marriage.

The only thing I know for certain is that day of announcing won't be happening - there's no stationery designed and it's happening in less than 5 days.

It can't possibly be an all or nothing thing like you're suggesting.

Anyone that's eloped- what did y'all do?

Really I can only advise that you don't keep it secret once you're married. That may be seen as deceitful by some people. If you feel it's necessary just send a wedding announcement the day after. Don't wait for pro photos.

Gotcha!

We won't be back in our state for atleast a week, so immediate announcements via mail won't be possible. And, it's extended family I want to inform. All our close family already knows.

Our parents have already started to blab about our wedding to other family members and people have been fine so far, no hissy fits. I definitely don't want to be rude, and I can't assume everyone in both our families will know one way or another. I want to be as courteous as possible without going over board and still giving them a peek at our day.

Waiting the 4-8 weeks to tell everyone is obnoxious in mind as well. I'd really rather not. But with major family members knowing, is it REALLY that rude that Great Aunt Mildred I've-Only-Seen-Once doesn't know the second it happens??

Ask your photographer to rush 1 pic that you can use in an announcement.

The "rule" that you will find most places is that they used to have to go out the day of or next day (which is still considered ideal) but now you can wait "up to" a couple months if you are waiting for photos. Personally, I might do a mini-announcement like a cell phone pic on facebook or something sooner with a "more to come" type thing and then send the link to the website as soon as you can.

We haven't sent our announcements due to circumstances as to why we married quickly and privately. We still plan to send announcements, but once we can afford it. Even though we haven't sent anything, people still know. We're planning on sending an announcement with one of our pictures saying that we were wed in a private ceremony and our reception will be held as scheduled on our original wedding date. Obviously the announcements will only go to people on our original guest list. Word got out anyway; people didn't mind but now the wedding announcements are going to be more like a save the date for the big reception. We have a kind of unique situation because we got married privately because my mother had stage four endometrial cancer. She died less than 2 weeks after we got married. So also to be fair, those announcements are not of the highest priority at the moment.

YES! I didn't even think of getting a sneak peek from the photographer. You ladies, thank you, SO MUCH. So helpful. I think that'd be an awesome way to update social media, then slide in to sending physical announcements when we get back.

AH! Stress level, reduced by 100.

And, doubly thank you for giving me the traditional advice, and then telling me how to get around it, haha!

Crescent 1894 -

I am so, so sorry for your loss.

It's a blessing your mother was there for your wedding and was a part of making such an incredible memory for you. I am so terribly sorry. My heart aches for you, sending you so much healing love and kind thoughts.

We took a selfie of us on the way to our wedding, and then one of our hands together with our new bands, and announced it over group text to our closest family before announcing on social media later the next day. I told them that way because we were on the way to the rest of the activities I had planned for the day and I wanted them to know immediately before we got busy.


If you do it that way, be emotionally prepared for nobody to care like if you give them a party to attend. Nobody from my family even called me on my wedding day after they found out. My mom, stepdad, brothers or grandmother (who always told me that marriage was more important than the 2 degrees I earned 🤦). And we're fairly close.
I was pretty hurt that for my birthday they'd think to call, I would be expected to for theirs too, but on my wedding day, not a peep. So just be ready for that with an elopement. Not sure my experience is common, but honestly, if people are only emotional and interested in congratulating you because you paid for a party, I don't want that kind of transactional interaction anyways 🤷