Etiquette for inviting coworkers

I'd say it depends on how big the office is and how close you both are. I work at a restaurant and only invited those that I am close with. I tried my best to be discreet about asking for their addresses.

A good guideline is to only invite those with whom you have a social relationship outside work.

Do you socialize outside of work? If not, don't invite anybody.

Also, it could be really awkward for a boss to invite his direct reports to his wedding. (Edit: they could feel like he's compelling them to attend.)

So I would adopt a bright line rule of not inviting anyone.

If your coworkers have SOs, then that's 20 extra guests.

With people on his staff, I think it should be all or none. That avoids any accusations of favoritism, etc. For people not on his staff (people that don't directly report to either of you), anyone you have social relationships with outside of work is appropriate.

Note: This is my advice as a business person who takes their professional reputation pretty seriously. I can see not following this advice if this is not how you would describe your work/office.

Typically I agree that you should only invite those you have a social relationship with. However, since your FH is a manager, I'd say all or none. A boss can't appear to have favorites without causing tension.

If he's the boss it's all or none. If not, you can just invite the ones that you see outside of work.

It should be all or none. It will look like he is playing favorites with his employees.

I'm only inviting one woman I directly work with every day that I've developed a friendship with; same with my fiance, who is only inviting one guy, and his wife, who he directly works with every day and plays golf with. If you don't have a close working or social relationship with them, then I'd say leave them off.

I'd esp be careful about inviting your FH's direct reports. Since you have a small office, I'd say either invite them all or invite none.

I work at a major university and we have a large faculty and staff within our department. There is noooo way to invite the people I talk to once every few months, but you bet I'm inviting the few people I am friends with and see daily! I emailed them and said that we are not able to invite everyone but they are on the list and to please be discreet about it. They all listened and it isn't it an issue at all! It really depends on your work environment.

If you have a personal relationship with them, then you are okay to invite some but not others.

Since he is manager, he would have to invite everyone in his team, or none of them - otherwise it looks like he is playing favourites and could be construed badly. Also, I would be careful about inviting any of them at all (depending on his working relationship with them) as the relationship between manager and subordinate is a delicate balance.