Hey ladies, so my FH and I sent out our save the dates a few weeks ago, and we’ve gotten several responses over text and in person from people who say they won’t be able to come. My question is do we still send them an invitation, or do we rely on their initial response?
I don't think everyone understands how save the dates work. Just sent mine last week too.. I had a concerned friend text me asking how he was supposed to RSVP. I had to tell him that it was much too early for that lol
Def still send! I had an aunt who we knew couldnt come bc she just had major surgery and would have a long drive/flight. She sent us a card and check saying she would not be coming. But I still sent her an invite and a note that we would miss her and wanted her to still feel included and be able to see the invites!
I would still send - only Bc the save the dates isn’t anything necessary and plans change so who knows what could happen from now until then and plus they might feel awkward not getting an invite after reviving a std
For me personally it would depend. If it was a close relative or someone I felt close to, I would still send an invite. If it’s a friend that maybe you’re not as close to, I wouldn’t send them one. But that’s just me!
Unlike popular opinion I wouldn’t send one in fact I didn’t send to those who said they weren’t coming after STD. It felt odd to me sending an invitation to someone who already said they couldn’t make it. I didn’t want them to think I was pressuring them or expecting a gift after the formal invitation. That’s just me. Oh and I also saved money on the invites.
I would still send them an invitation. A save the date is essentially a "pre" invitation and if you sent them a save the date you should still send them an Invitation. Let them decide what they want to do once the invitation arrives. It may save you a lot of hurt feelings later. Good Luck
For me personally, I wouldn't send them an invitation. But of course, I think it really depends on the circumstance. FH and I have gotten a few folks (all on his side) who have said they don't want to come to the wedding because of drama with his mom. Why would we then go ahead, and send them invites? You know what I mean, Gabrielle? LOL For us, it would just be ridiculous to. They are grown adults who can't put pettiness aside and are willing to miss our wedding for high school drama. So they aren't getting invites. It may seem harsh, but I'm not going to pressure anyone to come to my wedding. If they say they can't come, they can't come! In our situation, these folks don't WANT to come. So you can sort of see the difference. But yeah, generally speaking it depends on the circumstances. I'm wishing you the best!!