Etiquette Faux Paus Pet Peeves?

Thank you cards!! I went to two weddings this year and never received one. Now I dont give gifts expecting them but etiquette wise...come on people. 🙄 even a text would be great.

My FW got an invitation addressed just to her...no plus one, nothing.

Letting your kids run around like Hellions. I get letting them bust out their moves on the dance floor, but parents and families need to be mindful of kids and their surroundings.

For instance, we went to wedding last year where all these boys did was run around. This was a historical manor with narrow walkways and steps. They chased each other around the tables bumping into guests and nearly knocking over staff. Eventually someone told them to go outside.... so they could jump off of the stone steps and wrestle in the front lawn.

View Quoted Comment Oh my gosh this 💯 this is why I am choosing to not allow kids at our historical venue. It’s my largest fear.

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Girl, yes! It was such a nice day so some of us moved outside to enjoy the front porch and all we could hear was: BANG, BOOM and other miscellaneous rowdy boy noises.

Open seating 🙄

I went to a teeny tiny wedding—about 20 guests. They rented the patio of a local restaurant for the reception and didn’t have a seating chart of any kind—a total free-for-all. Even with only 20 guests, there was so much shuffling and confusion when it came to seating that the reception ran almost an hour behind schedule. It caused the brides a TON of stress, confused the guests, and left spots at some tables open while people squished extra place settings onto others.

You don’t have to go all-out and assign specific seats, but please at least assign tables 🙏

View Quoted Comment I went to an 80 person wedding where I was a bridesmaid and there was no assigned seating/tables. My fiancé was going to be invited but I had already told her he couldn’t come so she wrote my invite only to me and didn’t ask if I wanted to bring another guest. Fine, whatever. So I went flew across the country and came alone. She had a sweetheart table and a table for her mom and grandmothers but nothing else was assigned. The other bridesmaids all scattered with their husbands so I was stuck by myself all night. I had a few awkward chats with some other guests, but I would have left early if I weren’t in the Wp. Maybe it’s not technically an etiquette faux pas but it definitely made me feel awful.

View Quoted Comment I’m so sorry that happened to you! That must have felt so isolating. This is why assigned seating is so important and definitely an etiquette thing IMO—it allows guests to enjoy themselves, makes sure everyone is comfortable, and helps things run smoothly and on-time, which are the points of any etiquette rules.

I was listed as "and guest" on the eacort cards at fiances brothers wedding... We weren't engaged yet, but dating for over 3 years and own a home together and he had told his brothers his plans. So I don't like the "and guest" it's not hard to ask a name!
Also they didn't send thank you cards.

When my cousin got married, her husband didn't even come over and say hi to me at their wedding. Super rude

I hate when people mess up my name on an STD and go “oh well you know what I meant” and don’t change it for the invite. I find it really irritating and lazy to just assume I have my husband’s last name and not change when you’re corrected

Open seating and no thank you cards drive me bonkers. Only one of the last 3 weddings I've been to had open seating (which ended in FH and me sitting at a table by ourselves hoping someone would join us), but we've only gotten thank you cards from 1 of those last three weddings. I get that people are busy, but we sent gifts weeks before the weddings, so there was certainly time.

I was invited to a destination bachelorette party. I declined because of the expense/timing. I NEVER received a wedding invitation or heard from the bride since. SO RUDE!

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My goodness his is AWFUL! i'm so sorry you had to do that. I refuse to have a bridal party table because i want them to sit with their loved ones. And on top of that I feel they should've still let you bring someone, especially if you're traveling!

Oooh, I have a bunch:

We received an invitation less than two months before a wedding that was on a Thursday afternoon where we didn't receive a save the date. (Edited to add - and it involved a two-hour flight to get to!)

Even after getting engaged I'm sometimes getting invitations that are addressed to me "and Guest" rather than naming my FH.

I sent a gift to a wedding last summer that I couldn't attend and never received a thank you note.

And then not necessarily a faux pas, but I went to a couple of weddings this spring where dinner wasn't served until 10pm (they had very heavy appetizer buffets, but why is this a trend for really upscale weddings?).

View Quoted Comment No I don’t get this. I want to leave by 10 not eat at 10. I’ll be asleep at my table.

I went to three weddings this summer- two of which FH was in. The first one, FH sat in an unariconditioned barn for over three hours because the bride forgot about the GM. And all of the GM significant others were sat at a table all the way in the back where we couldn't see a single thing. The second one day of was fine, but its been over two months and we haven't gotten a thank you. And the last one had a reception timeline that was all kinds of weird. Right after the ceremony they went and did BP photos, the did the big intros, cut the cake and then went back out to do couple photos! It wouldn't have been too bad, but we ended up waiting over two hours to get our dinner. And I still haven't gotten a thank you from them either.

We went to FH's cousin's wedding this year. We have been together 5 years and I was put as "and guest" on the envelope. Also, the cocktail hour turned into 2 hours with no food -- just drinks. Which, I mean, not complaining about free drinks, but with nothing to munch on either there were a lot of tipsy people before dinner was served.

Registry info on invites, cash/honeymoon registries, big gaps between ceremony and reception, not greeting every guest in receiving line or table visits, cash bars, splashing "no kids" all over the website and invite (just don't invite them, don't list who's NOT invited).

Open seating, large gap between ceremony and reception (or large distance between locations)