I need advice for my rehearsal dinner! We are in the processor planning the RD and things have spiraled. My MIL would like to invite 80 people which to me sounds stressful and unnecessary.
How we got to this many people is that we both have large families. MIL told her family as soon as we had a date that they would be invited to the RD so they booked rooms for that night. I was not going to invite my extended family to the RH in hopes of keeping it small, however I feel that it is not fair for the grooms family to be invited and mine isn’t. So that brings our list of direct aunts, uncles, and cousins to at least 80.
My MIL is worried about telling her family they aren’t invited since they booked room and in general will be upset because they are use to being invited to family RD.My attempted compromise was that we do a quick, informal dinner after the rehearsal for the people actually in it. Then, having a welcome party for whomever with coolers of beer and wine and maybe light snacks. My MIL argues that this would be just as much stress and money because she would still have to feed 80 people and we would still have to mingle with all of them. If these are the concerns I would love to cut the stress and money by just doing the RD with the people involved in the rehearsal (and spouses). As you can see it has been a round about process and I would love any ideas/advice people have!Thank you in advance.