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Just Said Yes June 2018

Estranged parents

Maranda, on June 5, 2017 at 9:23 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

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My father, stepmother, and sibling have not spoke with me in about 6 years and I am now planning my wedding. The thought of my father and sister not being there is killing me. However having them at my wedding in person can pose issues with my daughter.

I am looking for suggestions on how I can at least give my immediate family the opportunity to see/witness the ceremony and not make my daughter uncomfortable. I can't just invite my father and sister without my stepmother and brothers (which are the problem part of the situation). I have considered streaming the ceremony but it seems odd and I wouldn't even know how to invite them to watch.

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Latest activity by Helena Handbasket, on June 5, 2017 at 9:42 PM

Master April 2017
A&L · on June 5, 2017 at 9:31 PM
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I wouldn't invite any of them. I haven't talk to my dad in years so he didn't get invited. In my situation, he chose not to want a relationship with me and I don't have the energy to beg anyone.
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Master November 2016
KitandKaboodle · on June 5, 2017 at 9:37 PM
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Before our wedding in November, I had not spoken with my father in 15 years. I did not invite him, his wife, my 1/2 siblings, their spouses/children and don't regret the decision. He determined the terms of our relationship and I honored.

Not sure what your issue is, but if it will cause stress on your daughter which would be stressful for you, I agree with BigBrother.
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VIP January 2018
MrsRidley · on June 5, 2017 at 9:38 PM
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If inviting them means that your daughter would be uncomfortable, then I would not invite any of them. Putting my daughter's comfort first would be a main priority to me. Send them a picture after you get your professional photos back. If you all haven't spoken in 6 years, they wouldn't be missed.

ETA: Grammar
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Expert April 2018
FilleNouvelle · on June 5, 2017 at 9:39 PM
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Don't have any advice, but as someone in a similar situation, just wanted to offer my support to you

I don't know that there is such a thing as a good decision on these matters, but I hope you make the right one for you!
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Master February 2016
Helena Handbasket · on June 5, 2017 at 9:42 PM
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No offense but your daughters comfort comes way before family that you haven't spoken to in 6 years. When your daughter remembers your wedding let it be the day her mom got married. Not the day that she was very uncomfortable around them.
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