Estranged family

It's a DW for them so I doubt they'd come anyway, but there's the off chance they might

I wouldn't invite them if you don't want them there.

I don't think your wedding is going to be the ideal setting for an estranged family reunion. If you don't have a relationship with them and are indifferent if they are there then I'd leave them off the list. Save those spots for guests that you'd really like to include.

I wouldn't invite them. I look at is as weddings are kinda about daily life people. Not distant family.

Don't invite them if you need the seats. My FH's dad is a piece of shit but he still wants to invite him. We're inviting some of his dad's family just because I would have absolutely no idea where to seat his dad without them.

Don't invite. A wedding is not the place to get to know people.

I wouldnt invite them

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Same issue OP. I just recently reconnected with my father after 20 years and while I'm inviting him (more out of obligation than desire as well as my mother passed away so I kind of want one parent there), I have no contact with his sister (my aunt) and very limited contact with his brother (my uncle) so neither have been invited. I also have estranged family on my mothers side I'm not inviting. It wasn't a question or concern for me, really. I was 6 when the distance was created so I don't feel like it's my responsibility now to repair it - they had plenty of time. Basically, don't invite if you don't want to.

Similar situation here. Im only inviting 3 of my dads 4 siblings and 2 of my mothers 4.

Finances parents divorced 24 years ago when he was 6.. but his father was present in his life so he and his family will be attending. I actually love them all and can't imagine not having them there. In your situation, I think I'd just pass. You don't even seem like you want them there. It's your wedding, invite whoever you feel deserves to be there.

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In the end, it's your wedding. Be ready for any repracautions, but I didn't invite some of my family due to limitations, non communication, and I'm not wanting drama at the wedding and some weren't invited for this reason.

I am having the same debate with myself. My parents divorced when I was 16. I really haven't kept in contact with any of my Father's family besides my grandparents and the spotty relationship with my father and stepmother. I have been invited to all of my cousins' weddings on that side of the family but never attended due to being uncomfortable around that side of the family. I am not inviting any of them besides my grandparents, my father and his wife.

I know my father will be upset but I really don't want them there since it has been ages since I have seen any of them.