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Just Said Yes May 2026

Estranged Best Friend...invite or No?

Abby, on May 5, 2025 at 8:45 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 4

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So, my absolute best friend from college and I haven't been super close in the last 3-4 years. And by this, I mean we lived together in college, she was like my sister and completely inseparable. And now we text maybe 3-4 times a year and aren't really involved in each other's lives. She moved many states away a few years ago and I haven't seen her in person in at least 4 years. My problem is, should I invite her to my wedding? I always pictured her being there, but I feel like if I reach out now and invite her it will be awkward. And her attending may be awkward since we haven't seen each other in several years. But I also feel like if I don't invite her it would be rude because we were so close and I think I truly do want her there on my day. Help!

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Latest activity by Kaylie, on May 13, 2025 at 10:30 PM

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Michael · on May 5, 2025 at 2:39 PM
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If she was like a sister, then she most likely will be as familiar and friendly as the days you were together. Inviting her will encourage what relationship you still have. You may even be investing in a time of revived interaction for the future. There does not seem to be any downside to this.
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Just Said Yes May 2025
Mary · on May 5, 2025 at 10:43 PM
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You answered your own question - “ I think I truly do want her there on my day.” what better occasion to get back in touch and maybe rekindle that friendship.
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Natalie · on May 7, 2025 at 2:49 AM
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You're saying you want her there, so go ahead and invite her, but also be prepared for the possibility of her declining. Everyone is different, I've had friends I was super close to a few years ago, then we drifted apart naturally and now we don't really talk except for maybe birthdays, and if one of them appears in my dms inviting me to their wedding I'd decline. Since we aren't close anymore I'd feel awkward attending their wedding.
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Kaylie · on May 13, 2025 at 10:30 PM
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If you don’t have any problems with her then I think it is worth considering inviting her. It just seems like it’s the distance that caused your friendship to be distant as well and not something either of did. You can try reconnecting and see how you feel. Also even if you invite her she may not be able to go so that’s something to consider as well.
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