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Devoted August 2019

Entrance

Amanda, on July 19, 2019 at 5:02 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 15
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So many questions today! At our wedding we are doing a grand entrance, to music and such. I thought this was very common at weddings. When I told my mom she acted like she had no idea what I was talking about. When I asked her to participate she strongly refused. I'm not going to lie this really upset me. I know in the hand scheme of things it doesn't matter but it's what I want. Her statement " I'm not dancing out like an idiot" Well no one asked you too. I guess I just needed to vent because this made me kinda mad. She has pushed for so much other stuff at our wedding and I finally ask for her to do something and it's a no..... Anyone else?

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  • Jasmine
    Rockstar August 2020
    Jasmine Online ·

    That is definitely common nowadays so it's not surprising your mom hasn't really heard of it or seen it, depending on the last wedding she's been to. It's also based on generations. I understand it sucks that your mom pretty much blew you off to not want to do it but as far as FH and I, I don't think we would do it because he's not an attention kind of guy so there might not be a grand entrance for us. The last thing I want his for him to look uncomfortable in any way. I could care less as long as both of us are happy.

  • A
    Devoted August 2019
    Amanda ·
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    Agreed that you shouldn't have to do what makes you uncomfortable at your own wedding.
  • Caytlyn
    Champion November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
    I wouldn’t be upset in the slightest if my mom didn’t want to dance into my wedding. I don’t see the issue. Why would you want anyone to be uncomfortable at your wedding?
  • Sarah
    VIP September 2019
    Sarah ·
    I rarely see parents introduced into the reception so I don’t see this as a big deal. Do you really want to maid your mom do something she isn’t comfortable with?
  • Tessa
    Devoted November 2019
    Tessa ·

    I've never been a Mother of the Bride but I can compete with Jane in 27 dresses for the amount of weddings I've participated in. I personally hate the amplified bridal party entrance the most. The attention can be a lot for some people. My suggestion would be to help her come up with a type of "choreographed" entrance. Even if it's just a walk and pageant style wave. Anything that she can practice to help her with her confidence. Hopefully this will help her get on board! If she knows exactly what she is going to do it would take away some of the awkwardness.

    The waiter's face tho...Entrance 1

    One of the groomsmen in my bestfriend's wedding knew how much I hated that part and said he would jump in the pool with me, so we did it. We wore robes for the reception and everyone, including the bride & groom, got a kick out of it. *Yes, I got the bride's permission beforehand. She was ALL about it*.

    I really hope she ends up having a lot of fun with it! Good Luck!

  • Tessa
    Devoted November 2019
    Tessa ·
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    I think the OP is saying she asked her mom to be a part of the grand entrance and she refused. The mom's response was that she did not want to dance into the wedding, but the bride never asked her to dance. She just wants her to be announced was she enters the reception. Never asked her to dance, just to participate.

  • Melle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Melle ·
    My husband was groomsman to our groomsman's wedding and he completely forgot to dance during the entrance ahah so if your mom just walks in that's ok too. I do agree with you though - they don't even really need to dance they can just clap or something that's not so stale but I guess some people are uncomfortable with it
  • A
    Devoted August 2019
    Amanda ·
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    Yes, exactly. I don't care if she dances. She can literally power walk to her seat lol
  • Heather
    Beginner October 2020
    Heather ·
    Grand entrances are so popular now, I can’t even think of a wedding that I’ve gone to without one. But like PP had stated, there’s a generational difference so I can see why she might not know. I would explain to her that it’s something that you’re looking forward to and hope that she can be introduced, but it’s her call overall. If she does not want to be introduced, I would still introduce the other parents and wedding party. Maybe show her some videos of grand entrances from other weddings online. A lot of people just walk to their seat or throw up a hand wave instead of dancing, so I wonder why she believes that a dance is expected.


    Hope all works out, good luck!
  • Tessa
    Devoted November 2019
    Tessa ·
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    I agree! Just a wave a appropriate and painless.
  • Cher Horowitz
    Rockstar December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·

    Just as you said, nobody's going to force her to dance - everything's going to be okay

  • Nicole
    Super September 2020
    Nicole ·
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    Omg i love this! LOL

  • Nicole
    Super September 2020
    Nicole ·

    Every wedding I've been to this year the parents would recognized and were part of the grand entrance. However, all of the parents walk in, then it's the bridal party and thats when the fun dances start. Is she okay with walking in?

  • A
    Devoted August 2019
    Amanda ·
    She is refusing to participate altogether. Walking or dancing, she's not doing it
  • Courtney
    Rockstar December 2019
    Courtney ·

    We plan on introducing the parents, but not expecting much out of them lol. I see my FMIL doing a little dance but definitely not the dads.

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