So many questions today! At our wedding we are doing a grand entrance, to music and such. I thought this was very common at weddings. When I told my mom she acted like she had no idea what I was talking about. When I asked her to participate she strongly refused. I'm not going to lie this really upset me. I know in the hand scheme of things it doesn't matter but it's what I want. Her statement " I'm not dancing out like an idiot" Well no one asked you too. I guess I just needed to vent because this made me kinda mad. She has pushed for so much other stuff at our wedding and I finally ask for her to do something and it's a no..... Anyone else?
That is definitely common nowadays so it's not surprising your mom hasn't really heard of it or seen it, depending on the last wedding she's been to. It's also based on generations. I understand it sucks that your mom pretty much blew you off to not want to do it but as far as FH and I, I don't think we would do it because he's not an attention kind of guy so there might not be a grand entrance for us. The last thing I want his for him to look uncomfortable in any way. I could care less as long as both of us are happy.
I've never been a Mother of the Bride but I can compete with Jane in 27 dresses for the amount of weddings I've participated in. I personally hate the amplified bridal party entrance the most. The attention can be a lot for some people. My suggestion would be to help her come up with a type of "choreographed" entrance. Even if it's just a walk and pageant style wave. Anything that she can practice to help her with her confidence. Hopefully this will help her get on board! If she knows exactly what she is going to do it would take away some of the awkwardness.
The waiter's face tho...
One of the groomsmen in my bestfriend's wedding knew how much I hated that part and said he would jump in the pool with me, so we did it. We wore robes for the reception and everyone, including the bride & groom, got a kick out of it. *Yes, I got the bride's permission beforehand. She was ALL about it*.
I really hope she ends up having a lot of fun with it! Good Luck!
I think the OP is saying she asked her mom to be a part of the grand entrance and she refused. The mom's response was that she did not want to dance into the wedding, but the bride never asked her to dance. She just wants her to be announced was she enters the reception. Never asked her to dance, just to participate.
My husband was groomsman to our groomsman's wedding and he completely forgot to dance during the entrance ahah so if your mom just walks in that's ok too. I do agree with you though - they don't even really need to dance they can just clap or something that's not so stale but I guess some people are uncomfortable with it
Grand entrances are so popular now, I can’t even think of a wedding that I’ve gone to without one. But like PP had stated, there’s a generational difference so I can see why she might not know. I would explain to her that it’s something that you’re looking forward to and hope that she can be introduced, but it’s her call overall. If she does not want to be introduced, I would still introduce the other parents and wedding party. Maybe show her some videos of grand entrances from other weddings online. A lot of people just walk to their seat or throw up a hand wave instead of dancing, so I wonder why she believes that a dance is expected.
Every wedding I've been to this year the parents would recognized and were part of the grand entrance. However, all of the parents walk in, then it's the bridal party and thats when the fun dances start. Is she okay with walking in?