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Dedicated September 2023

Engraved wedding band

Rhondayalex, on April 10, 2023 at 10:09 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 6

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Everyone has that "thing", right?
That one thing about the whole wedding planning process that they're just not sure how to handle. I thought with this being our 2nd time around, I'd be free and clear if any wedding angst. I was sadly mistaken. Lol. It's ok...but here's my issue. Any weigh-ins are welcome.

So, I want my wedding band engraved....and I don't want him to have "I love you" engraved on it. It's generic. We tell each other "I love you" on a daily basis. I know he loves me. I've told him this. I want something that is just for us. Now, the littlest of things puts his anxiety into overdrive. How can I help him figure this out without essentially determining my own engraving? I knew instantly what I wanted engraved on his ring. And, No, he's not me. So, how can I help him through this process?
This is silly, right?Maybe. But it's important to me.

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Latest activity by Rhondayalex, on April 18, 2023 at 12:11 AM

CM · on April 10, 2023 at 11:06 AM
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There's really no need for this to be a surprise or cause anxiety! A.B. to C.D April 10, 2023 is the traditional form we used, and talked about ahead of time.
It's hard to convey all of one's thoughts, feelings and sentiments in the space of a few millimeters in a way that could ever do his feelings justice. IMO something understated can make an even bigger impact for what's left private and between just the two of you. Alternatively, just discuss what would be meaningful to you both, together.
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Just Said Yes May 2023
Juan · on April 11, 2023 at 1:50 PM
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I understand this is your thing and it is important to you. To me it is an awesome idea. However, maybe to your partner this is silly or seems unnecessary. I have a few things I've suggested to my fiancee that she thinks is silly and vice versa. That's part of being with someone. If it is truly urgently important to you, you should express that to your partner and then back off and let him process it. Maybe he will come around maybe he won't. Give him the space to embrace it in his own. If he doesn't, then find something he has suggested to do for you that you aren't crazy about. Who says you both have to give the same gift for each other.
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Master July 2019
Hannah · on April 11, 2023 at 7:59 PM
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Communication is one of the most important things in a relationship. Partners are not mind readers. If there is something specific you want engraved on your wedding band, you’re much better off telling him what it is rather than setting yourself to be disappointed when he didn’t magically read your thoughts.
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Dedicated September 2023
Rhondayalex · on April 11, 2023 at 8:41 PM
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Oh the joy of reaching out for words of wisdom. Not looking for or expecting someone to "magically read my thoughts". Was looking for community support in finding a gentle way to express the importance of this to me.
No worries. I got this 🙂.
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Master July 2019
Hannah · on April 12, 2023 at 5:29 PM
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And the best way to do that is to just be straightforward and tell him what it is that you would like engraved on your wedding band.
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Dedicated September 2023
Rhondayalex · on April 18, 2023 at 12:11 AM
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Gawd love. Isn't it funny how sometimes all you need to do is attempt to talk about what's on your mind in order to figure out your own solution.

Chatted with my soon to be SIL. She's got me covered. Way easier than conceding on something that is important to me.
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