Hi, everyone! I want to consult something with all of you about engagement rings and how Americans would view the following situation. I got engaged almost a month ago. He and I share different cultures. Before he proposed, he had told me that his grandma was offering us one of her multiple rings for him to propose.
We’re on a tight budget, and I wanted to honor/respect her gesture. So, I said yes to that ring, even though I didn’t like it at all. My fiancé knows this. He said he’d buy me the one that I dream of in the *unknown* future (right now, the ring is within his ability to purchase; it doesn’t even cost more than $1,300, and the average is $4k. It’s such a pretty ring on its own that I don’t even want a wedding band either).
We’ll celebrate our wedding next year, and I’m thinking about having the ring I genuinely like for that date. However, he doesn’t want to hurt his grandma’s feelings. I suspect his father and other family members could be really offended too. I figured I could still wear the one she gave us on my other hand (again, this is not even a family heirloom). I’m starting to regret having accepted this ring in the first place, just to avoid making anybody feel bad. What about *my* feelings now?
What do you think I should do? Am I being super disrespectful? Should I just stay with this ring, since I’m marrying the man I love anyways, or should I talk (again) to him, so he understands how I’m feeling? Am I being vain, making a ring too much of a deal?
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