Engagement ring struggle

Can you post a picture? Maybe the group has an idea of a band that will work well with it! I'm sorry you are feeling this way... my FH gave me the rule of "if you don't like what I pick then you HAVE to tell me". I loved what he picked, and I couldn't imagine telling him that I didn't if it had come to that. I did have to tell him I didn't like the wedding band he had picked (and we already bought), he listened and together we relooked and found something else for him. He cared more about me liking everything and that we could be open and honest than anything else.

Could you find a wedding band you do like? Some people only wear their diamonds for fancy occasions and wear a more simple everyday ring instead. Maybe that would be a better solution if you don't like the ring and don't want to change it. Sometimes the simpler wedding bands are cheaper than the stacking ones designed to go around other rings too.
I personally think you should be honest that you don't like the ring that much, especially if it's bothering you. I'm sure your fiance would rather you be happy.

You're not going to magically start loving it. You have 2 options. 1. Try to buy a new bridal set altogether. 2. Just buy a wedding band you like and only wear that without the engagement ring after the wedding.

A lot of women stop wearing their engagement ring daily after they get married (unless they fuse them together). I am lucky in that I love my engagement ring, but (we only got married on July 20), I have probably worn just my wedding band alone more days than I've worn the engagement ring with it. It's just more low profile, which is what I want more of the time.

I'm so sorry you are feeling this way about your ring. There are a lot of styles out there and its totally understandable to not like the style if its completely different from everything you picked out. I haven't been in this situation, but what if you talked to him about have the stone put on a new setting? You could find a bridal set you like, and then have the stone from your original ring put on the new set. You could explain to your fiance that you are having a hard time finding a band that goes with it your current setting, but this way you still get to keep a piece of it.

Current Ring

I know he just wants me to be happy.. but I know he will be so disappointed in himself for not getting "the right" ring if I tell him. I know it comes with the territory of being married that Ill need to tell him things that upset him sometimes, its just never been something this big before.

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It's so beautiful though!!

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Can you also post a picture of what you think you would rather have?

First of all, that ring is gorgeous. But I understand it not being your style if that’s how you feel. Can you maybe find a wedding band to wear alone, and stop wearing the engagement ring after you get married? Or wear the engagement ring on your right hand?

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Like I said, its not an ugly ring.. and that's what makes it so hard. I've never liked round cut stones, and Im not a fan of the twist on the side.. and now its the twist on the side that is causing the issue. I dont like the way anything sits with it. Ive tried straight bands, curved bands, and twisted bands. I just dont think anything looks good with it. I guess I might just ask him if we can get a bridal set for my wedding band so they fit together perfectly since Im struggling so hard with the band.

It is beautiful. Honestly I chose my e ring and I don't wear it anymore aha. I love mine and it's so me but it's moreso because of practicality purposes it was easier just wearing my plain simple band. So maybe for you... Find a band you love enough to not wear the e ring anymore? You don't have to wear the e ring anymore anyway once you get the wedding band. Also one of my friends had the set of her e ring changed so I'm sure it's ok if you modify it to your liking.

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the style I was hoping for

straight lines, no curves or twists, and square cut.

I have an engagement ring similar to yours with the twisted band. My FH ended up getting me custom bands to fit into the twists on one side and are flat on the other. That way they fit together but have a smooth finish when they are all on. Is this maybe an option? I know custom bands can be expensive, but could be worth looking into if your considering a whole new set all together. Best of luck.

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Kayla, I hadnt even thought to look into getting a custom band. Thank you! At this point Im willing to look into anything to see if we can make it work and still fit it into our budget.

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I got mine from Jared, and they were more than helpful in the entire process!

That is a beautiful ring! Definitely not everyone's style though. Maybe a band like this might work? If you really do hate your ring though I would talk to your FH. Yes he might be hurt or disappointed that you didn't like what he picked but I think if you don't say something and it comes out much later he will be hurt more that you didn't say something. My FH hasn't officially proposed yet(we have a date already for the wedding) but he asked me to send him pics of rings I like. That way he can choose something or create something he knows I'll love. Good luck!

I had a similar situation. It's not my favorite ring and I was really hoping he would choose a slightly different style. I did find a wedding band after TONS of searching that is beautiful and fits well with the engagement ring. I wear them both every day and am not upset by them or anything, but it's not what I would pick if given the chance.

If you really don't like it, I'd be honest with FH about wanting another ring. It's better to be honest about this than keep that secret from him. He'd probably be more upset if you waited years to tell him you never liked the ring to start

My FH was actually going to give my his mom's old engagement ring that his dad gave to his mom (they never got married because unfortunately his dad became terminally ill) and he thought I should have it. It was a nice ring but it was really outdated and just wasn't my style. I nicely told him that I really appreciated that he wanted to give it to me but I wanted to love the ring that I wore for the rest of my life. He ended up going and getting the diamond put into a new setting! So I have a ring I love that still holds sentimental value. He is going to go back to the jewelers and have his mom's birth stone put into the old setting where the diamond was. I know its not the same situation but maybe a new setting may help.

Thank you ladies! Your comments and suggestions really helped make me feel better about the situation. I had a conversation with my FH last night, and he was very understanding about it all. We are looking into a few different customizing options at this point. I dont feel so hopeless anymore. Thank you all again!

I personally would check where he got it and see if they'd credit what was spent to basically trade it in, and if thats a go then casually ask your SO how it would make him feel if you made some changes to your ring. Go from there. Thats kinda the boat im in, i thought it would really hurt his feelings and it actually wasnt a big deal, he was more concerned with just not spending any more money haha