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Just Said Yes September 2022

Engagement Ring Setting Remorse😩

Nicole, on January 6, 2021 at 12:21 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 20
I have the WORST engagement ring setting remorse.


Last summer, my boyfriend and I made the decision to go ahead and get a custom engagement ring for me, and I was so so excited by the idea that he and I went all out on the ring design and setting. My hands are kind of meaty, so I really wanted to go with a ring that would elongate my hand. I read that three stone rings look best if you’re trying to create an elongating/slimming effect on your finger, and I just loved the halo look at the time, so we went for this 3 stone halo engagement ring, with a 1 carat center stone and 0.5 carat side stones. After we finalized the design and the jeweler sent the design to the factory for the ring to be made, I started reading EVERYWHERE that the new trend is more minimalist designed yellow gold engagement rings without so many details.
I’m a big trend oriented person so when I started seeing that the halo engagement ring setting design and the white gold/platinum are declining, I instantly panicked, and I have had this tinge of remorse and slight regret ever since August.😩
Has anyone else had this issue where when you pick your ring you aren’t considering trends, fading/declining popularity, etc.? How do I accept this? I feel so bad because I’m already thinking about how on our 10 year anniversary I want to completely redesign the setting with the 3 diamonds from this setting, however I know that this ring will hold a lot of sentimental value for us.
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Latest activity by Katie, on January 26, 2021 at 7:00 PM
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    Champion July 2019
    Veronica Ā·
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    Personally, I wouldn't focus so much on trends as they attend to come and go. Your focus should be on the fact that you are marrying the man you love. Not all men include the woman in deciding on the ring so I would just be happy he wanted to include you. He could have very easily have gone and just picked something out.
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    Nicole Ā·
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    You’re right, I am the luckiest girl in the world to have a man who wanted to get me exactly what I wantā¤ļø That’s where the guilt comes in. I keep trying to remember that just like all the trendy rings back in the 80s/90s are now coming back in many ways, I’m sure this style will re-emerge, so I agree that I can’t fixate so deeply on the setting not being the hottest style on the market anymore.
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  • SLY
    Master January 2022
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    The only reason I have a dainty ring is because that's my style. It wouldn't matter to me what is 'trendy' right now because honestly, styles come and go, and not every trend is right for everyone! I remember thinking back a few years ago when the bedazzled halo rings with diamonds on the band was 'trendy', I told my FH at the time, that if he were to propose and pick a ring, that I'd much rather have something dainty and not fussy...because that's who I am.

    If you like the style of ring that you got, then stick with it! I think it looks gorgeous! If you don't have a wedding band (band set) picked out, then opt for a plain band, or something more minimal if you want to stick to the 'non flashy' trend!

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    Nicole Ā·
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    Yeah that’s very true - that’s what the ladies at the jeweler were saying, that if that’s my style and we love it, then I shouldn’t be so fixated on the trends. I love the idea about the simpler wedding band to go with it, I actually didn’t even think about that! We haven’t gotten the bands yet, so maybe when we go look for them I’ll give that idea of a plain wedding band a shot! Thanks for your help friends!šŸ’•šŸ’•
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  • Chrysta
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    As a person that pays attention to trends, you should also realize that trends always come back around! That being said, three stone rings are still quite trendy right now! Lots of celebrities and even a member of royalty have just recently received one. Plus, I have a feeling three stone rings will always be a ā€œclassicā€ due to the symbolism they represent- the past, present, and future. Your ring is gorgeous! And it has the added sentiment of creating it with your fiancĆ©. I could easily see this being an heirloom that is passed down to your children and grandchildren. Stop worrying about trends, girl! Ring trends are created by the diamond industry in order to sell more diamonds!
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  • Jamie
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    Jamie Ā·
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    I'd honestly rather have a ring that isn't in style than a ring everyone else has. That's just me. But if you have something that is personal to you and who you are as a person, or that your loved one designed with you, it really ends up being timeless. I wouldn't worry about it. No matter what is "insane beautiful ring is still a beautiful ring.
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  • Jamie
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    I meant to say, no matter what is in, a beautiful ring is still a beautiful ring. Autocorrect really messed that up lol
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  • SLY
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    I think a plain band will compliment it very well! You can even get one plain band for now, and maybe an eternity band for when you want to feel a little bit more flashy!

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  • Cyndy
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    Personally I wouldn’t worry about trends. You should get what you want. I designed my own ring and am so happy that I did. I get compliments all the time on it. I don’t care ā€œwhat’s trendyā€. Be happy that your FH took the time to get you what you wanted rather than just buying something.
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    An engagement ring should never be chosen based on what's popular or trendy. The ring is going to be worn (hopefully, right?) for 50-60 years; no trend has ever lasted or will ever last that long. So if the halo did not go out of style this year, it would go out of style next year, or the the year after that. At some point, invariably, it isn't "in" anymore.

    My ering is rose gold, which, while never as popular as yellow or white, had a 'moment' (I believe) a few years ago. Not sure if it's still quite as popular but I don't care one way or the other, because *I* like it. Not a single thing I would change about the ring.

    Another thing when considering trends - today's "in" look might be the equivalent of big hair or puffy sleeves 15, 20 years from now, no way to tell. Just something to keep in mind when trying to stay on trend. I didn't know minimalist rings are "in"; I suspect it may have to do with unemployment during covid and that being all people could afford. Minimalism has also been a trend for a while now among young people, as has later marriage; as those folks now get married, makes sense they would choose something smaller.

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  • Michelle
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    Choosing a ring based on popular trends will definitely backfire! Definitely steer clear of that.
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    If you want a diamond ring to keep up with trends, that will be a very expensive upkeep.


    You're supposed to wear this ring forever. Trends change every season. Designs will be replicated and recycled. This is not a big deal.
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    You took the words right out of my mouth!
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  • Chantelle
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    Hi have a three stone ring too. Trends come and go! I’m sure whatever your original vision/ring was, is what you felt would reflect you most and would be timeless in your eyes. My FH took me with him when picking my ring and we designed it together. I didn’t think about trends at all. We picked what felt timeless for me Smiley smile


    Maybe just stick with it for now. This is your OG ring! But if you’re that unhappy with it or the regret does not go away, go make it right and redo it. It’s your ring so you can do what you feel is right. Your partner would want you to love it.Engagement Ring Setting Remorse😩 2
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    Amanda Ā·
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    Maybe you would be happy with a slightly different setting? If your fiancĆ© doesn’t care and the cost is low, you should do it. Personally, I would do without the halo (maybe you can even save $ or break even by returning these to jeweler). I have a three stone ring and my center stone is larger than yours and side stones are smaller, so maybe even going with smaller side stones to accentuate the center stone more. Don’t be afraid to get your ring reset if you hate it! Yeah, it’s a gift but you should love it.
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  • MIWM
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    Do not focus on trends and follow your heart.

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  • Meghan
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    I couldn't care less about trends and what is "popular" when it comes to my wedding rings. I sent a few of my favorite engagement rings to my wife and let her choose what she wanted for me. Never once did I read up on what was the "in" style at the time. I love my e-ring and wear it everyday with so much love and pride. E-rings are not given as a fashion statement, they are given as a sign of commitment.

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  • MIWM
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    Your ring is absolutely stunning! What do you call the shape on the diamond?

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  • Talia
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    I totally agree with this. My husband went on my Pinterest page and looked through it and saw the style I posted most. He went with that.

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  • Katie
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    You shouldn't be concerned with trends. Trends change like the weather. All you'll be doing your whole life is chasing trends. I'd be very lucky if I was you to have that ring. Plus marriages aren't about fancy wedding, the next trend, or rings. It's about being with that one person you couldn't ever imagine living without and growing old with your best friend. Let's say he was to trade that ring in for the ring that's trending, then in 5 years a completely different looking engagement ring is trendy, would he have to trade in your ring every time a different style became trendy?


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