Engagement Ring Regrets - need advice!

If it bothers you.....make it right!

You just need to make better choices.

i say you picked to change it out, if you wanna buy it for yourself thats fine but you already have a new engagement ring. how does he feel about all of this? why is it you changed your mind? why did you second guess it originally? just take a moment to think it all over and not just jump.

Omg, totally unrelated but Snarky your avatar SLAYS ME.

Anyway, are you feeling regretful because the ring was sentimental? I was sad I didn't like the original ring. It was pretty, just not me, and it was ginormous. I'm more of a dainty ring type of gal. Anyway, we returned that and exchanged it for another. The sales person lied to us about the quality of the stone, so it also got returned. We ended up choosing our own setting and diamond and having it specially made at ShaneCo. I'm glad I never settled, because I'd be unhappy.

If it really bothers you then you should talk to ur FH about it and see what he says. Don't buy the ring without speaking to him first.

Can you incorporate some aspect of the original ring into the wedding band? Win-win

If you like your current ring, then keep it. We as women have a tendency by our nature to have feelings about things, as well as people - in fact, we can have emotional connections to things, which is what I think you're feeling here, more than actual regret about having a ring you love.

The ring is not the proposal. The ring is not the vows. The ring is a symbol, nothing more, nothing less... This sounds silly, but try this... tell your FH that you love your ring, and you love him so much, you want to have him ask you again to marry him, with the new ring.

It's a very long story, but we weren't going to get engaged for a long time, and I had a ring I dearly loved that was old, and my FH took it in his hand, and standing and gazing into my eyes, slipped it on my finger, and kissed me, and i swear to you it was as moving and exciting and loving and happy as when he actually proposed months later, with my engagement ring.

You won't recreate the actual proposal - and you shouldn't. But you can make a NEW memory with the new ring, that creates the same warm, loving, happy feelings that you felt with the other ring, with the new one. It's the moment, and your FH, that make you happy.... I think you can imbue the new ring with all of that with the good energy of that private moment between the two of you

I see you said the original was gorgeous, but not you. Do you feel like you miss it? I guess I don't see what is causing the regret - that it turns out you loved the style of the original ring, or other (sentimental, or outside pressure) factors? I exchanged my original ring as well because I wanted a smaller stone, and I thought I would be upset because it's not the ring FH proposed with, but we both like the new, smaller ring better!

FH actually wears a really generic, sterling silver band all the time on his right hand. He's been wearing it for years. He proposed to me with THAT ring. After he asked me to marry him, he was so busy explaining that he wanted me to pick out the ring of my dreams...yada, yada, yada...that he didn't hear me say YES! Long story short, we went out to the jewelry district in Boston the next day and I did NOT settle. I knew I wanted an aquamarine, but none were the right color. At about the 8th store, I found it. Never had a regret, ever. Sometimes I wish FH had proposed with a ring he picked out, but I can honestly say, I am so in love with my engagement ring, I'm kinda glad he proposed the way he did. It was sweet.

Hmm not sure i can help but im in a similar boat! The ring fh got my is nice, but ive never reeeaally loved it. We are all set to get a new one, possibly on tues. Im sure i will love it but a part of me is also sure ill be sad to see the original go! Its a very weird feeling. My advice is that the ring is a material posession. Its a symbol of your love, but it doesnt represent the entirety of your relationship. So whatever you choose, be happy with it, and dont put too much pressure on yourself for not liking the original ring in the first place.

I changed out my ring for one that is more me. Sometimes I do think about the first ring. I realize the ring I now wear I love. I am happy to look at every day. We have been engaged for 5 years. That is a long time. I still love my ring as much today as the first day. That is important. I can't wait to add my wedding band in 30 days.

Thanks all, I feel better already. I do think that it's more the sentimental aspect, that I don't have the original ring he proposed with. But I look at pictures of the original ring, and I still don't love it. His proposal was AMAZING and nothing will change that, and yes, I do think the ring is just a material thing and in no way represents our relationship. I have not talked to FH about this bc it was enough drama at that time, I really hurt his feelings, and I hate reliving that. I'm hoping that when we go pick bands together, that experience will wash away these feelings that I have about that original engagement ring.