Engagement Ring regret?

I actually like the set in the 2nd photo.

Personally, I wouldn’t reset it at this point. You have 2 great band options shown and I just don’t think its worth the time, money, and possibly hurting your fiancé’s feelings to fix it. That being said, you need to be happy with it so if you’re fiancé is on board, go for it.

My engagement ring and wedding band are both infinity style and I love them but I agree with you. I just don't really like the infinity style. The 2nd picture honestly is not bad at all and I think it looks nice. I would talk to your FH and see what he thinks if you haven't done so already. You are the one who is wearing it after all.

I agree! I love the stacked look there and want to do my myself.
Although the ring wasn’t a style your originally wanted, it’s not a style that you hate or think is ugly. You still like it, right? And this wasn’t anything until looking at wedding bands?
Personally, I would keep the setting. Your fiancé chose it for you and spent his time and money selecting it. But if you really hate it and think it’s ugly, reset it since it’s something you’ll be wearing everyday. And if you’re having trouble finding a matching band, you can go the custom route (I did since there’s no matching band for my ring).

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I don't think it's ugly, but one of the first thoughts I had when I got engaged was "oh, do I like this?" (terrible, I know.) I think it just wasn't what I was expecting which is why the emotions were heightened when I was having trouble with the wedding band.

Trying on some different options did help to ease my feelings though, I think the stacked look has potential

Thank you!

Whatever you select, I would advise against rose gold. That’s a trend that peaked a few years ago (around 2017) and has gradually been fading out. Whereas yellow and white metals will always remain timeless. Just something to think about because it would suck in a few years to also dislike your replacement ring too.

I personally think it's gorgeous, especially with the mismatched bands, but I completely understand having ring regret. I started off with a white gold round solitaire (cz stone, so it wasn't very expensive) and it just wasn't what I wanted. I really wanted rose gold, so I went with that and I LOVE it.

Rose gold isn't trendy per se, it's been around since the 1800s. All golds have had their peak in trend like yellow gold was VERY popular in the 80s and 90s, then white gold was all the rage in the 2000s. Yellow gold is making a comeback this year. In my opinion, "trends" are really not important. What is important is that you love it. If it's something you really want and can afford, I think you should go for it.

So based on your post, it sounds like your fiance got you what you had asked for - a white gold/silver ring with a unique band that I could eventually get a matching wedding band in. Is this correct? If so, I would be hesitant to go back and tell him you want it to be reset. By the sound of your post, it also sounds like you do not know what you want, so before making any decisions I would take a step back and really try to figure that out.

Personally, I think you should keep the ring. I don't see where he went wrong and I don't think it's...fair? to spend $$$$ to reset the ring when your existing ring falls within the parameters of what you had wanted.

My setting is similar - twist band, rose gold, but no pave on the band. I wouldn't worry about something being "trendy" if you really like it.

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That is somewhat true, which is what makes it tricky. I had selected several bands I liked and shared with him but ultimately none of them were chosen and he went with the infinity band which I was not originally interested in.

At the time I wanted to be surprised, but it turns out I didn't lol

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Very pretty! Thanks for sharing

This is something I have strong feelings about with everyone, not just you.
If you want a ring bought to your exact specifications, save up $2500 to $20,000, and buy yourself a ring. It will look pretty on your hand. ... If you want a ring that commemorates the proposal, a symbol of his love for you and your promise to marry him, happily wear the ring FI picked out, a true gift from him to you. Gifts are chosen by the giver, not the recipient, with the hope
to please, not exactly to specifications, or on approval ( except you must give it back of you do not marry where it is a conditional gift.)But it is emotionally hurtful to have a gift so sentimental rejected for any reason. Maybe if more women did the same thing they expect men to do, save up, look and look , give something you think isgreat and which you may pay off into the future, only to have your sweetheart say, gee, I'm sorry, but this is not what I had in mind, can you take it back???Maybe more would appreciate the statement of love, and not move to change or "upgrade", a term I hate. He obviously listened to you and tried to please. It is beautiful. Keep it unless you are breaking the engagement. Think of this as a sign of your marriage to come. Marriage is about choices. Are you all about rejecting anything that is not 100% as you want it, completely disregarding your husbands tastes and choices? Will he feel rejected every birthday, Anniversary, Christmas or other holiday because what you really want is money to shop for yourself, that he supplies, not an actual gift from him?

My husband wanted to get me an infinity band too, and my sister told him I didn’t like it. He ended up designing a mash of infinity and regular band for my ring. Definitely not my style, but I love the ring regardless because he designed it himself.


The second set with the stacked rings look great, and if you want a different gold you should do that too. I think the beauty of stacked rings is you can make it super unique to what you want and it can change too,

I have a rose gold pave & I absolutely love it. Rose gold has always been my personal color of choice because I have pink in my skin, so I feel it complements my tone better. I never even thought about it being “trendy” because I’ve loved it for so long and always had rose gold accessories. But on another note, it’s very minimal and not everyone even notices it’s rose gold. I say do what is going to make you happy, because you’re gonna be the one wearing it for years to come your ring is gorgeous regardless though! ❤️