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Cassandra
Dedicated July 2020

Engagement Photos

Cassandra, on December 8, 2019 at 3:06 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 9
My FH and I had our engagement photos done two months ago by our wedding photographer. We got them back quickly and ordered save the dates with one of the photos and I’ve been procrastinating sending them out. I realized it’s because I don’t like the photo. I don’t like any of our photos except maybe one. We wore two outfits and we should have just worn the second outfit the whole session (more flattering) and I’m at my heaviest weight ever. I feel like we’re awkward in them and I just don’t care for them. I don’t want to post them or print them for the walls etc. I don’t know what to do. Do I just send out the save the dates and chalk it up to a learning experience, do I ask to redo them or? She’s a great photographer but I’m just not really happy w the session Smiley sad (first photo is the save the date photo and second is the only one I like and better outfit I think) Thanks for reading
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Latest activity by Tamatha, on December 31, 2019 at 2:33 PM
  • Sharon
    Super September 2021
    Sharon ·
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    The first picture is beautiful!! You don't look awkward at all. You look very happy and in love!
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  • Ashley
    Dedicated September 2021
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    I agree, that you look great in both photos. But if you don't feel that way in the first photo is there any reason you cannot use the second? You could also re shoot the engagement photos if you have the budget (and you can get your fiance to do it twice). Most of us pick ourselves apart, especially in photos. I think the first photo is lovely but if you aren't fond of it I think you should use something else. No need looking at the photo with regret. Just remember the average person feels awkward taking these type of photos because they are posed and most of us aren't models.

    *Also I don't see how anyone especially your friends and family could have anything negative to say about the photo.

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  • Crystal
    Devoted October 2020
    Crystal ·
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    Honestly, you look great in both of these. But I totally feel you. I’m at my heaviest and am stressing about my photo shoot.
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  • Sarah
    Expert August 2020
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    I love them both
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  • Jodie
    Expert August 2020
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    In my opinion I think both photos overall look great. I do love the second one more. You guys look like you are more comfortable and relaxed. The first one I just think its an awkward pose all together for anyone (but I do like that dress!) I rarely see pictures with that pose that I don't think the couple looks uncomfortable. But I don't think it is a bad picture by any means.

    We ended up using a few selfies that we took spur of the moment throughout our relationship. The pro photos look too staged and forced. If you aren't loving them, use pictures you do love or don't use pictures at all.

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  • Alyrae
    Super February 2020
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    I think both pictures look great .... and u look beautiful in both ..... i think the first picture looks better because u can see the two of u better and more clearly then the second
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  • Sinéad
    WeddingWire Administrator January 2025
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    Hey Cassandra!

    Both photographs are really beautiful!

    I totally understand that when you have decided your opinion on something it can be difficult to see beyond it. You look gorgeous in your photos!

    Is it within your budget to create new Save The Dates with the photo that you prefer? Do you think you would feel more comfortable sending them out?

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  • Cherry
    Expert February 2020
    Cherry ·
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    I really do think both look great! I thought you were going to say you liked the first outfit better, actually!!


    I never feel comfortable any time anyone else takes a photo of me - my selfies all turn out great and I look like a skinny goddess so I'm very hard on myself if anyone takes a picture of me anywhere at any time (because then I always look like a troll peeking out from under a bridge). I purposefully didn't schedule an engagement photo shoot because I knew I wouldn't like any of our photos.


    If you really don't think these photos embody your essence, is it possible for you to take some selfies that you'd like better? If not, I will vote for the top photo because I think you look beautiful in it (that dress is stunning!) and your smile is so contagious. It's exactly the kind of photo I would expect to see when I open a save-the-date or engagement announcement. Cheers and good luck with deciding Smiley heart

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  • Tamatha
    Dedicated December 2019
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    I like them both you look great and your future hubby too!
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