Engagement party

OK girl, take a deep breath and relax... it’s all going to be ok ☺️
Engagement parties are not a necessity by any means, and a lot of couples don’t even do them these days. Since you’ve been engaged since June, there is no need to have an engagement party now- that is something you do as soon as you get engaged. So don’t stress about an engagement party.
As far as wedding showers and bachelorette parties go, there is no designated person who “should” host these events- it’s just whoever offers.

Engagement Party- not really necessary and something we chose to skip. Traditionally the bride’s parents host the party but anyone can host. Just depends on if someone offers.


Bridesmaids- choose women who you are close with and who you know will have your back and support your marriage.
Bachelorette Party- where I’m from this is something the MOH and bridesmaids normally put together.

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Ok thanks I really appreciate it.

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OK thank you I really don't have any one close . so i guess i wont have a wedding party.

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Don't force it. There's nothing wrong with not having a bridal party.

So many things that we think are "must haves" are... really optional.

Engagement parties - optional

Bridal parties - optional

And so on

The only things *required* for a wedding are:

1. A couple

2. A license (and often an officiant)

3. Food for any guests you might have

I would skip the engagement party at this point! But bachelorette party is usually your bridal party hosting it. We threw our own engagement party (cost us $2K). Cancelled out bachelor and bachelorette vacation in Vegas due to Covid, so made up for it lol
Either way, have fun with it! 🤍

Engagement parties are either given immediately after you are engaged, or around a year down to 8 months, if you have a long engagement. Before you publicly announce your wedding party, but when you have a tentative guest list, so you only invite people on your wedding list. Standard recommendation is 8-10 months before the wedding at earliest for asking bridesmaids and GM. Unlike wedding dresses, bridesmaid dresses are received 2 to 10 weeks after the order date, depending on manufacturer. Because most BM dresses cost $100 to $250, most people do not want to risk losing or gaining weight, or pregnancy changes, so ordering no earlier that 4 moths out means only hemming. No one wants to pay $200-$350 to remake a dress that costs less than that to begin with, so people like to get measured and order 4.5 months out or less. So there is really nothing Bridesmaids must do under 6 months. Brides who decide to get dress shopping for BM done early not only usually fight with at least one bridesmaid about buying them way before they are necessary, but those brides are asked to pay alterations if ordering at 7 months or a year means they changed weight. And last reason for not picking bridesmaids til 8-10 months out, the traditional time, is that friendships change, and life plans change. Someone you have known for years may move, go to school, have a baby, or get engaged , and either of you never is around anymore. The friends of 18 months ahead, are often not there come wedding day. ... So in fact , you are doing fine. Media and the wedding industry have pushed and pushed, do everything earlier, and spend more.
But read WW. A huge number of wedding parties chosen more than a year out, do not make it to wedding day. And there are lots of problems with people trying to bring all BM and moms to pick out gowns for brides, since most with big entourages do not easily end up with dresses. Don't be rushed. When first engaged, you had no idea of the size wedding, costs, which may determine size of guest list. But around a year or less, you can choose guests for an engagement party, and know tgey will be invited to your wedding. So if you want to jave an e party, and someone offers to give one for you, the best time is coming about a year out. Set a date and venue you keep quiet about, asking on ly VIP if they are free. Set a tentative guest list. Then see about an engagement party. And privately ask BM, with enough info so they can see about dates and costs, and say yes or no before they are announced to anyone else. Your timeline is fine. Do not be rushed.