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Engagement Party- Who to Invite

Future Mrs. Mac, on August 1, 2016 at 6:17 PM Posted in Planning 0 7

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My FH and I are recently engaged and my parents whom live 2.5 hours away would like to throw us an engagement party. We'd like it to be more of an open house where people can meet and greet with the two of us.

Should I really be calling this an engagement party? It sounds less formal. Secondly,, his parents and most of our friends also live 2.5 hours away from my parents and family. Would it be rude to have this party and invite our friends and his family even though they live that far? I don't want it to come off to others as expected. His parents generally would not travel that far (his mother is ill) and I don't want them to feel guilty for not coming.

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Latest activity by Mrs. Sasswood, on August 1, 2016 at 6:36 PM

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BlueHenBride · on August 1, 2016 at 6:20 PM
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For an engagement party, you only want to invite people that you know will be on your wedding guest list.
I'd invite your FH's family and your friends and let them decide for themselves if they want to make the 2.5 hour drive.
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Celia Milton · on August 1, 2016 at 6:25 PM
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No one should be invited if they won't be on your guest list. They're adults, they can figure out if they want to go that far.
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Future Mrs. Mac · on August 1, 2016 at 6:26 PM
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Yes, I know it's a tad much but I just find it easier to ask on here. I'll keep it down to one a day from now on. I didn't realize the same people would read every post : )

My parents are hosting.
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bellamae · on August 1, 2016 at 6:29 PM
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If they are traveling that far they will probably stay awhile, making it less of an "open house" feel. Only invite who you know will be invited to the wedding. That's so nice of your parents to host it!
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GymRat · on August 1, 2016 at 6:29 PM
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I'm diggin' your enthusiasm. But I feel like this is your 3rd post on the same topic. Don't stress yourself too much over this. Wait til you get to the nitty gritty of the wedding planning! Fun fun fun! :-)

Do YOU want an engagement party? I don't think it's necessarily rude to invite folks who live that far away, but if it were me, I'd more than likely decline. Then possibly you're going to have a bridal shower, bachelorette party, then the wedding next October. For ME it seems a bit much, but do what you're comfortable doing.

Also, like PPs have said, anyone who you are inviting to this engagement party needs to get invited to the wedding. I don't know about you, but between when we got engaged last Christmas and now, we've changed our guest list a good 10 times. No way we could have had an engagement party - we'd be obligated to invite those people.

Happy planning!

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Future Mrs. Mac · on August 1, 2016 at 6:30 PM
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Thanks everyone for your comments. Have a great rest of your evenings.
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Mrs. Sasswood · on August 1, 2016 at 6:36 PM
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Amanda- while stars really mean nothing, the more stars a user has, the more active they are in the forums. Many of the people that you see posting on your threads have 4-5 stars. This means they're in the top 2%-5 or 10% of allllllllllll the other posters on this forum. Get used to us. We ain't going anywhere!
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