Engagement Party??? Who should give it?

In my social circle, engagement parties are never hosted by the couple. They are typically hosted by parents or aunts/uncles.

Don't throw one for yourself. i think engagement parties are moving into an archaic thought because with social media engagements are announced almost immediately. Engagement parties used to be to actually announce engagements i believe. They're really not necessary anymore.

Could come down to a difference in social circles, but my FBILs threw their own engagement party and no one was offended (I guess we can't know for sure, but at least no one looked it or made any mention of it to anyone that got back around to the immediate family). This was before I was engaged/on these forums so I had no idea it wasn't proper etiquette. They hosted well with food & drinks and everyone had a good time. I totally understand why you don't throw your own showers since the purpose is for gifts... but (personal opinion) an engagement party seems okay to me. That said, even through my mom offered, we opted not to have one (we got engaged in September and when we looked at a calendar it seemed like every weekend through the end of the year had something going on) and we didn't feel like we were missing out at all by skipping it.

You were engaged October 2018 or 2017? Or you will be engaged October 2018? I'm confused.