Engagement Party timing

Its out of your hands, you aren't supposed to host or ask someone to host an engagement party so whenever she wants to do she does.

An engagement party is not necessary anyways

You do not have anything to do with the planning of an engagement party. But they are usually done within the first 3 months of the engagement

We will be having ours in October though we got engaged in April. I don't think there's a "right" time to have a party but it is out of your hands.

I say have the party now, to capture the excitement of the moment, the other things can be spread out. His mom can host a different event (like the bridal shower or something low-key) if she really wants to, since she can't make the engagement party your mom is hosting.

Guys I promise I'm not planning, asking anyone to plan, or hiring a plane with a banner behind it telling everyone what to do and when to do it. Be cool! The issue lies in that my mom took initiative first, but was looking to his mom to co-host, his mom readily agreed (They're not just future in-laws, they've been friends since before we started dating), but the timing just isn't matching up. We're relying on his parents to get the clubhouse from their subdivision.

I just wasn't sure if this would be awkward or unpopular timing. Almost 8 months after our actual engagement and right after the holidays. Please guys, that's literally all I'm looking for an answer for.

My mother has a lot on her plate and I love her for being willing to do this and was excited about it, but taking some stress off of her is something I'm definitely willing to sacrifice a party for, telling her not to worry and that they'll be plenty of celebration later.

@Rachel S., I'd love too, but it's just not looking like an option.

It sounds like you already have your answer yourself:

"My mother has a lot on her plate and I love her for being willing to do this and was excited about it, but taking some stress off of her is something I'm definitely willing to sacrifice a party for, telling her not to worry and that they'll be plenty of celebration later."

I think you should tell her that- its beautiful, sweet, and clear. And she can get excited about all of the other wonderful things still yet to come. If you all want to have friends over at somebody's house to say hi to everybody while they are in town, that doesn't have to be an engagement party. That's just a party! And everybody loves a party, nobody has to be an official host, and nobody's feelings are hurt if somebody can't make it.

Stephanie we're not being uncool. We have this question multiple times per week, and often people are throwing parties for themselves.

Look up two threads, for instance.

That's pretty late for an engagement party. Many couples skip them altogether.

OP, you don't get to decide how people post on here. As long as they are within community guidelines they can say what they want.

@Rachel S., thank you for thinking this through for/with me. I appreciate your insight and suggestion! A general party may just be our best bet. Good idea!

@Jacks, if you got offended by that I'm sorry, but it's a expression that a ton of people use jokingly. I assumed you would have gathered from the airplane joke just prior. I understand that you see questions about planning etiquette multiple times per day/week/what have you. I see it too. But I'm not asking about etiquette for who is planning the party. (I tried to make clear that I am not throwing the party for myself) I am asking about a timeline. If you have a suggestion, I'd love to hear it.

@MrsD17, thank you that is the kind of answer I was looking for. You're right, i did come off that way and it was not my intention. I have seen many people get quite rude over something like Party planning and was trying to avoid that, then in the process came off rude myself. I apologize.