Engagement Party rsvp

Whoever is truly in charge of planning (it sounds like your grandparents). You could put your wedding website, I think that's totally fine!

I would ask your grandparents and aunt and uncle who would prefer to receive the RSVPs!

I'd ask them who would rather be in charge of the RSVPs and my sister did put our wedding website on the invite, but we were not fully registered anywhere yet because it was too early in our engagement to register. People just brought misc. gifts like wine, wifey and hubby mugs, etc. Cute little things to celebrate.

Whoever is in charge and knows all the wedding details should be in charge of the RSVP but it’s fine if someone else keeps track of the RSVPs. Traditionally people bring gifts for engagement party’s so including the website is fine

Thanks ya'll!!

I think the people physically hosting the party (aunt & uncle) should receive the RSVPs, unless they are not at all involved in the planning. If they simply said, use our house, and turned the planning over to grandparents, then grandparents should get it. It's probably some combination of the two scenarios I outlined. In that case, I would ask them who prefers receiving the RSVPs. That's so sweet of all of them.

I would include the wedding website on the invitations, if you have created one already, just for general information. It also might cut down on the number of questions you have to answer at the party about your wedding. lol

It depends on who they prefer but probably your grandparents since they're planning everything. You can definitely put your wedding website on there. It was difficult with me and my fiance because our friends are childish. My mom's contact is on the invites but she wasn't really getting anyone. The deadline is in 2 days so once we reached back out to them telling them they can just rsvp through us, we got immediate responses.

It's like they were too scared or just planned on showing up the day of and they would have looked real stupid if they did that with no place to sit and no food to eat. I doubt it, but hopefully you won't have that little issue.

I would have the RSVP go to whichever persona wants to accept the responsibility of managing the RSVPs. It's at your aunt & uncles, and your grandparents are paying for it, but which one of them is doing the hands on planning / arranging of everything? In addition, I don't see anything wrong with including your wedding website. It'd be different if you directly put on there your registry.

My FMIL is hosting the engagement party at her house because it's the biggest, but my mom is paying for the taco man and the rentals of tables and chairs. Because my mom is in charge of that, I put her phone number for the RSVP. I did include my wedding website on the invitation, and even though we have links for registries, we have not registered for anything yet lol because our wedding is not until June 2020. We do not expect gifts at the engagement party. In my past experience going to these parties, people usually do not bring gifts, but if they do, it is usually like a bottle of wine or a gift card or something small like that. Usually not a registry gift.

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OMG... that would stress me out! Thankfully it's mostly family and a few friends.

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It definitely has been stressing me out a little bit and we didn't even want the party. My mom just really wanted to do it. Deadline's tomorrow so whoever doesn't get back to us, oh well.