I am curious on everyones thoughts regarding the following: No one has offered to host an engagment party for my FI and I as of yet (almost 2 months post engagement). However as it seems to be customary to have one (and also being we are assuming most/all other wedding costs considering our families don't have much to contribute at all) i figured i would proceed planning a small party myself to celebrate. Nothing crazy-cocktails and appetizers at my moms house to keep expense low. However users of "The Knot" are telling me thats tacky and if no one offers to not do it. Yet i have other friends (human not via social media LOL) who said they know several brides who have thrown their own so they didn't see why that would be an issue. I am just stuck now trying to decide weither or not i should and i am just curious of everyones opinions.