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Engagement party gifts / honeymoon fund

Meghan, on July 22, 2019 at 3:20 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10

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Hey y'all, my fiance and I are having our engagement party on August 24th and are expecting 75-120 people. It'll be at our home with lots of food, yard games and drinks. My question is if I should have a table made for gifts? I'm not registered anywhere and didn't put a registry on the invitations but I don't want to not have a spot to put them if people do bring us a gift. Or even having a honeymoon fund by the bar if people want to contribute, great, but if not, no big deal. I know most of you on here think it's tacky but we really don't need or want anything from a registry. What do you think?!

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Latest activity by DuttonSandersWedding, on July 23, 2019 at 11:42 AM

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LB · on July 22, 2019 at 3:31 PM
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An engagement part is typically not a gift giving event. I would have an area designated for people who give you gifts (like by the fireplace or something similar) but I wouldn't have a designated table and I DEFINITELY would not put out a honeyfund jar (but I'd never put an honeyfund jar out period, asking for money is ick IMO).
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Champion October 2018
Kelly · on July 22, 2019 at 3:36 PM
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I’ve only ever seen really small gifts given at engagement parties like a bottle of wine or a ring dish. But most people don’t bring a gift to an engagement party.
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Dedicated October 2019
Dana · on July 22, 2019 at 3:46 PM
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Engagement parties aren't a gift giving event. Putting out a gift table or (worse imo) a "tip jar" isn't proper. If someone wants to give you something they will.
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Master September 2019
Sarah · on July 22, 2019 at 3:49 PM
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Engagement parties aren’t really a thing for most of my social circle, but the few I’ve gone to the couple only got a few cards and a couple bottles of wine. Definitely not really a gift giving event and I don’t believe a “fund” jar is ever appropriate.
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Master December 2019
Cher Horowitz · on July 22, 2019 at 5:22 PM
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Gifts are typically given at bridal showers or the actual wedding, so I wouldn't worry about setting up a table!
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Michaela · on July 22, 2019 at 5:26 PM
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Just have a spot in mind in your place to set them if people bring them. You won't need a whole table or anything.
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Mcskipper · on July 22, 2019 at 5:32 PM
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I would not. Engagement parties aren’t really a fit giving event like a shower , and if people come empty handed, I feel like a table would make them feel awkward that they didn’t bring anything. Plan a discreet place to stick gifts if someone brings you a little something, but, definitely not a big prominent gift table.
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Savvy May 2020
Meghan · on July 22, 2019 at 5:35 PM
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Thank you all! I appreciate all your help. It makes sense not to have it at our party, I just didn't want to be unprepared!
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Super October 2019
Jenna · on July 23, 2019 at 11:34 AM
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We had a smaller engagement party with about 35 people but when people came in they handed us cards and I just put them away in a drawer until everyone left. Only one person came with a physical gift so it was out on the desk in the living room. People will probably just come hand them to you if anything so just think of a safe place and put them there for the duration.
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DuttonSandersWedding · on July 23, 2019 at 11:42 AM
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I got a few cards and a couple bottles of wine at my engagement party, I just thanked the person as they handed it to me and placed them in the back room out of the way. However I disagree with everyone else on here and say if you wanna out out a honeyfund jar then do it. It wouldn't be a big deal in my social circles.
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