Engagement party, bridal shower, bachelorette party ..?

Etiquette wise they say you shouldn't say it on any but there are ways to side step that rule. Like setting up a wedding webpage with a link to the places you are registered at. Word of mouth works too. The engagement party and bridal shower invites are a good place to put the web info. In my experience the bachelorette party you usually get lingerie or jokey honeymoon gifts. Have a fun and congrats!

Thank you for the input! (:

I would agree that the only way to get out registry info is on a website or word of mouth. Also I don't know if couples actually register for an engagement party (at least I have never seen it done). Personally I would wait to register for your wedding not before the engagement party.

Oh, we only intend on a wedding registry. We're not doing an engagement registry nor are we doing it beforehand. The engagement party is one year to the date of our actual wedding. We have too many other things, including full time college classes, to worry about before having fun putting a registry together. Which is kind of why I asked, haha! I am making my own invitations and saw some on Etsy that said "no gifts please", others with registry info and others with nothing at all. I wasn't sure what was better.

Would it be appropriate if we asked for family and friends to bring a recipe to give to us as a "gift" of sorts? I would love to start a collection of recipes from his side of the family and mine but wonder if we should include it on wedding invitations instead?

I'm not sure what they're called, but I've seen bridal showers where everyone brings a recipe. Then they usually bring something used to make it, a pan, a crockpot, etc. Its a good way to start your collection!

Oh and to answer your question, I think registry info usually only goes on shower invites. It's never included on the actual wedding invitation, but you can enclose a card with your wedding website info and they can find registry info/links there

Registry info is perfectly legitimate on a shower invite, as that is what a shower is for, keep in mind, it's not you throwing the shower, it's your MOH. You asking for gifts.. Rude... Your MOH asking for people to give you gifts... A good friend,

Welcome Krystyna! I'm in the exact same boat as you right now! FH and I are 23 years old and broke recent college grads!

We had our engagement party already and people did ask us if we had registered anywhere yet (we hadn't) so we mostly got checks. All of that went right in to our bank account for our wedding. We are doing two traditional registries and a honey-fund. Our traditional registries will have plenty of options for our family who would like to buy us home items, but our honey-fund will really help us afford the honeymoon of our dreams. Beware of honey-funds though. They are a controversial topic on here and some people will say they're rude. FH and I have lived together for almost a year though, and have a lot of home items we would register for, so we decided that a honey-fund works for us. If you're not familiar with them, it's basically where you register for certain experiences, upgrades, or anything for your honeymoon on a website. Your friends and family can gift you a spa treatment, a romantic dinner, or even towards a room upgrade. It could help alleviate some of the wedding associated costs for you! We are listing our registries on our website, and are having our parents pass them along by word of mouth to family who wouldn't go to our website.

If you are asking for the recipes, I would add a secondary card, it could even be the size of a business card, to the envelope of your engagement party invitations, saying "Please bring your favorite recipe to share with the bride and groom," or something along those lines. If you are going to have a physical recipe box, and want to have all the recipes on the same cards, include a recipe card (it can be an index card or something similar) in the envelope also.

Good luck with everything! It's so great to see more young brides on here!

Thank you so much, everyone! My MOH has been an incredible woman and has gone to great lengths to help me through this process and told me this morning she intends to throw me a bridal shower anyways. (; So no worries there, haha .. I definitely agree that I don't think its appropriate to be asking for the gifts myself! (: They will definitely be helpful, any and all, when we move on our own soon though! Thank you for your wonderful input. I'll tell her I'd like to include something about a recipe for the shower if possible.

@Victoria - Thank you for the tip. (: My fiance and I actually have the honeymoon completely planned out, financed and ready to go - it's the rest of the wedding we haven't figured out, haha! A honeymoon is so incredibly important to me, because I want to spend a long relaxing week with my new husband-to-be alone after we get married. I'd rather spend more on my honeymoon and have a courthouse wedding with a dinner to follow rather than blow so much on my wedding that we can't afford a week away! I don't blame you for a honeymoon registry. Unlike others, I don't see that as rude. I understand it's a vacation, but like I said, as I see it, it's your first time off as a married couple - it kind of sets a precedent for the rest of your marriage. Just a personal/family belief. I would gladly give to a honeymoon registry if that's what the couple wanted.

I think that's a great idea for the shower! I'll talk to my MOH about putting something like that in the envelope. I don't have a collection of any long standing family recipes so a wedding is the perfect reason and way to begin acquiring them!

Thanks everyone for the help.