Hi all!
So FH and I are planning on having an engagement party the first week of April. We’re both very excited about it and both of our families are working to help us a lot with the planning.
At the beginning both our parents were very adamant about letting us do our thing and have things go our way, because we’re the couple. Now I’m finding that that wasn’t exactly 100% true. We wanted an intimate engagement party with close family and our bridal party. When going over the guest list, both sets of parents insisted “we can’t not invite so-and-so” FH and I kind of gave in at the beginning but now I’m starting to feel very stressed about the whole thing.
While I love the people who are invited at our parents requests, I was hoping to have it be more intimate. We’re currently 20 people over our intended list. But now those people have been officially invited and I can’t uninvite them.
Fast forward to last night, I was a talking few details with my parents and my dad says we forgot to invite some other people. I got a little bit of anxiety at the thought of adding more people because our Venue is for booked for 60 and we’re already at 57. So then both parents start discussing different and bigger venues, and possibly asking some of their friends for help. The only problem is these people would also have to be invited making the party even bigger. At the end, my mom stated that it would have been a better idea to just not have an engagement party at all so people don’t feel bad about not being invited, which honestly made me feel like FH and I were making the wrong decision to have a party to begin with.
I just feel like this engagement party is starting to become a bigger hassle than FH and I intended it to be. I’m kind of at a loss of what to do because of it. I don’t feel like FH and I can really approach the situation without coming off as ungrateful to our parents who are helping plan, but I also don’t want the party to be over taken by them either. I’m just so confused about what to do and stressing about it. FH keeps telling to try not to worry and things are going to be fine, but I can’t help it
