I am not engaged yet (I know it's coming since we have looked at rings and I found out he has asked my father for my hand) but I need some advice and I cant discuss it with anyone since I am technically not supposed to know about him proposing. I am currently not on speaking terms with my biological mother. We have definitely had our ups and downs, but she has constantly been very shady and manipulative with her own hidden agendas and constantly trying to find out information about my dad and step mother (who I am very close with). We got into a huge fight and have not spoken in over two months and I am trying to "teach her a lesson". However, I am fearful that I will get engaged soon and will not be able to pick up the phone and call her with the good news (she lives in a different state). I don't want to tell her the good news and then have all our problems swept under the rug and forgot about as it usually tends to happen. I know with her I will have to maintain control throughout the wedding planning and I just don't want all this drama. I feel like this is such an exciting and love filled moment in my life and I shouldn't be stressing about things like this already. I just cant imagine NOT telling her and her find out through someone else but I also don't want her to think everything is fine with our relationship. Our last conversation was "if you are going to continue to act like what you did was right and our relationship is going to continue to be months of not talking then we don't need to have a relationship at all and all she responded with was "that's fine". However, she then text me a month later saying "hey, how are you guys?" I did not respond. She acts like nothing ever happened.