About a month ago, my fiance abruptly ended our relationship with little explanation. I was, of course, completely shocked and had no clue what to do with my life as we had just bought a house and have 3 pets together. He quickly agreed to go to couples' counseling, even though at that point he didn't want to be in a relationship. Long story short, it seems that he felt pressure to jump into married life partially due to other people's comments and also some personal struggles with self-esteem. After our first therapy session together, we decided to be a couple again and he moved back in. Basically, most things are the same now as they were before this blow up, just without a ring and wedding date. I want us to be engaged again, but I have realized that I primarily just want to avoid having to explain the change to people. Things are going really well with us right now, but I know that we both lost ourselves and need to find ourselves before we can decide to promise our lives to each other again.
Unfortunately, we had already sent out save the dates, and our official relationship status on facebook is still that we're engaged, so people outside of our immediate circles don't know about any of this. How do we go about telling people that the wedding is off? I don't want to make a big deal out of it being cancelled if a few months from now, he decides that he does want to be engaged. Not sure if I'm just being naive and hopeful or if I should wait to make any public changes.