Engagement depression?

The only duties of bridesmaids are to show up on the day wearing the correct outfit, so I don't know how they can be crappy before the day.

As to the rest, would you lose a lot of deposits if you just eloped? Not that you should have to, but if you'd prefer a less elaborate wedding, there is nothing wrong with that.

Yes. When I got engaged I was a maid of honor for someone else and also in the process of moving to a new city and it was very stressful. I feel like I rushed into picking my bridal party and now low key regretting it. I send the girls wedding stuff related and no one ever replies to me. It honestly makes me really sad. I feel like I putt so much effort into the things they had going on in their lives and when it comes to me they are barely there. I’ve had venders crap out on me too over and over but it led me to some great ones! The process can be hard at times just try to keep telling yourself it’s about your day with future hubby and you!

I feel every bride have had their moments. My best advise is to not expect anything for anyone except your FH and that way you won’t be disappointed. Planning got overwhelming for me at one point (I was changing jobs, etc) but it got much better and now I just ask some things to my mom just when I know for sure I won’t be available to do it. And I could think about eloping but honestly is not what I wanted. It’s ok you feel this way but it gets better!

Your wedding is Nov! Breathe, you’re coming down the hone stretch. Just focus on you & your fiancé.

My favorite professional wedding planner, Jamie Wolfer says that it's very natural for couples to feel a "slump" of depression and stress a few months before the wedding. Apparently the "we should just elope" thought is extremely normal and you are not crazy. It will all be worth it!!

We have all been there so it's ok to feel this way! It'll pass! I know how you feel; one of my bridesmaids backed out so I chose another, my FMIL + FFIL are unsupportive and could care less. As long as the people I love + care about are by my side it'll all work out. Itll work out for you too!

View Quoted Comment Yess! This is my experience as well. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with that. I absolutely regret my bridesmaids choices too but I’m 3 weeks away & just told myself to relax & just focus on my fiancé and me. Honestly, as long as you look good, fiancé looks & feels good on wedding day, nothing else matters!!

Y’all! Thank you so much for your kind words! I’m 3 weeks away & this has truly helped me!!! It actually does get better!!!

You only have a few more weeks so take a deep breathe and do something fun with your FH. This is a tough time but it will all work out. Good luck.

View Quoted Comment Thank you!! Needed This!

View Quoted Comment Lol. “home” stretch.
You’re welcome! It helps to remember this is a joyous & spiritual commitment between you two (and God if that’s your belief) and everything else including the party, decor, details, are extra.

Breathe. 🤗

Things were mostly pretty smooth for daughter, but about 2-weeks out she was really feeling the stressed and was definitely frustrated with people who were challenging to deal with. During a routine phone call with her DJ, whom she loved, he was kind enough to ask how she was doing. After listening to her, he reassured her it was totally normal, and also, to just hang in, because by the time she was only a week out, she'd hit what he called the "I don't give a crap" phase and none of the stuff that was driving her crazy would matter any more. She followed his advice, and he was right.... The final week was pretty much all about fun, and if it wasn't, she didn't care! Good luck!

In the scheme of life the only reason you should get depressed is if someone has passed away and cant physically be their..the rest is not important its about you and your fh and commitment to one another..as for my bride crew their only "job" is to get pampered the day of since they have been my support system...lifestyle too short to sweat the small stuff.
Sorry if this offends anyone

View Quoted Comment Thank you! & that’s the thing. My dad & his mom have passed so that’s part of it too! But I really appreciate your kind words.

View Quoted Comment YES! That’s so true! I hope you have an amazing wedding day! 💖

Yes. But my issue is my FH he proposed but now that we're planning he isn't excited. Says its stressful which is weird because he's barely helped with anything. I keep asking if hes sure he wants to get married and he says yes and seems offended I would ask. Thankfully one of my bridesmaids is super excited, but one hardly cares and my MOH is my sister who lives out of state and I haven't heard much from her. So yes, at times I think it can be very depressing. You're not alone and from reading other posts it seems like everyone feels this way at some point.

View Quoted Comment Thanks girl! You too!!

View Quoted Comment Mine have are both gone too the only thing you can do is understand as happy as he is ..is as sad as he is....you will get through it together..

I think that's pretty normal. I did all the planning and pretty much everything on my own. No help from my MOH or bridesmaid or even my family. My husband wasn't interested, and no one in his family offered to help me either. Day of the wedding his son and sisters did help set up so I wasn't having to in my gown. I was sad and hurt that I ended up with no bridal parties of any kind

It's common actually I remember there was a period where I felt like no one was as excited as I'd hoped so that was definitely a hard lesson