Engagement announcement by mail.

I personally think that close friends and family might be a bit bummed they didn’t know before the rest of the guests. In the end, it won’t really matter, but I think they might still feel a bit disappointed about it at first.

If I was a close friend I would call you immediately so I could be excited with you. Wouldn't be upset at all.

I know our family & close friends would have been offended to find out by mail and not by us personally.

My family would definitely be offended if they found out about our engagement via mail.

Honestly our family members would be pretty hurt or offended that we didnt tell them personally. But you could have a different relationship with your family and it may not be a big deal for them.

I think it's you and FS' business, and it is kind enough for you to share with anyone, let alone everyone - at your own pace, in your own terms. Congratulations on your engagement!

I really thought it would excite and surprise them. I would be like Kellie...excited to call my friend and talk all about it. I never really thought it would hurt anyone's feelings until today. OOPS!!!

Honestly, you may receive some backlash from immediate family. If I did that, my Sicilian mother would rupture my eardrums with all the guilt she'd be piling on me. That being said, you know your friends and family better than anyone and they may be perfectly ok with it and love the surprise. I wouldn't stress too much about it. Congratulations on your engagement!

Thank you...

My family would have killed me if that's how we announced our engagement. My future in-laws wouldn't have been happy either because his mother got upset when he put he was in a relationship on Facebook without telling her so I could only imagine her reaction if we got engaged without telling her.

My family would be offended as well.

I think it would depend on how your family takes things generally. For friends, I think it would be an exciting experience for them. However, if it's your parents I would say I'm not sure they are going to find it happy. Honestly, it all boils down to why you decided to do it that way. It seems like it's a little too late to go back. I would say, don't beat yourself up on it. The wedding period can take a toll on you if you keep worrying about everything. Enjoy your own journey. It may be bumpy, however if you're doing it with love and with your partner, that's important.

P.S. I called my parents up and they were happy for me but they aren't good at conveying happiness overall. My husband told his parents the week before he was going to propose and his mom was NOT happy. So honestly, I probably would have been fine sending them a mail haha. I'm not justifying your actions, however everyone's experience is going to be different. Just prepare yourself for the reactions and be confident in why you did it. You can apologize and share your intentions. That's all we can do.

You're going to realize you're not going to be able to please everyone regardless, but you can just take whatever comes as a learning experience.

I think that’s an awesome idea. I had the same hopes for my engagement. What matters most is the way you envision it. My fiancé and I got engaged a few months ago, he told me it wasn’t how he expected to propose but that he couldn’t wait any longer. Since it wasn’t the way he planned it, he didn’t have a ring yet. Definitely not the way either of us saw it going. Nevertheless, it was very romantic and the memory is so special to me. His mother, stepfather, step sister and his brother ended up being a part of it so unfortunately it wasn’t going to be a surprise to them anymore and I made sure to tell my mother in person but once we picked out the diamond and it was ready for pickup two days ago, we decided we’d surprise my dad and a couple of other family members at thanksgiving. However, I envisioned a private proposal and sending out wedding announcements to everyone and having them find out that way. In a way, that’s still the plan. We’re having a destination wedding so anyone we send announcements to will be invited to the wedding(close friends and family) there are a lot of people we’ve kept this a secret from but now that we have the ring, our main goal is to get pictures taken after thanksgiving and send them out ASAP. I’m hoping it’ll be an awesome way of surprising everyone. and so there’s still some planning before we tell our close friends and family. Basically only my mother, his mother and sibling know. If we. Oils go back I definitely would have only told my mom and maybe dad as well as his parents. I think it’s a very cool idea to surprise everyone through a mailed announcement.