Engaged but no ring how should i tell him i want a ring

If you're marrying this person, you should feel comfortable talking to them about this. Did he say why he didn't get one? It could be that hes trying to save up, or he wants you to help him pick a ring. Just tell him, you're definitely happy to be engaged and you want a symbol of that. There are lots of affordable options if that's the issue.

View Quoted Comment He didnt say it was a spur of the moment engagement he daid he would never find a more perfect moment yo tell me he wanted to be together forever and i think he just hasnt thought about getting it i just want to ask him without sounding pushy

The ring doesn't make you engaged. You and your future spouse have decided you want to get married and that is what makes you engaged. Generally an engagement ring is involved but not always. Have you asked him if he plans to get you an engagement ring? Perhaps he plans to save the money and buy you a more expensive ring by your wedding. You are going to have to work together as a married couple and this is a good place to start. Talk to him about this and work together to find a solution.

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Hi stormy!! I went through this too. We didnt want to spend a fortune so we looked on overstock and found a really nice right with morganite(like diamond but a goldish hue and less expensive) for less than 300. I think the first step is to be tender but upfront. Tell them you've been getting a lot of weird remarks for not having a ring, and maybe it's time to look. Hopefully he'll be open to it. He may have already started looking!

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View Quoted Comment Just sit him down and explain how you feel. Tell him you love him and cant wait to marry him and that you'd like a ring to symbolize that. Then send him ideas, but not too many lol.

Can he afford an engagement ring right now? If so, just tell him that you’ve been wondering when he will be getting you a ring and maybe ask if he wants help picking it out? That way you’re just asking about it, not demanding a ring. If he can’t afford it, maybe tell him that you understand that he might not be able to get you an expensive right right now, but that you’d appreciate if he could get you a “placeholder” ring while he saves up. If you are engaged to him you should feel comfortable talking to him about something like this, especially because most people get a ring when they are proposed to (even if it’s just a really inexpensive one) so you don’t need to feel pushy or awkward asking him about this because it’s a very normal and reasonable thing to wonder about.

The question is... do you want a ring or do you want a ring because it is awkward when people ask? If you want a ring because you want a ring and it has nothing to do with other people... Then just be honest and tell him how you feel. Just be honest.

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My FH and I got 'promise' rings when we were passed the definitely gonna marry this person stage and we've since upgraded the promise ring and though I technically don't have an engagement ring, I tell everyone that this is it- considering the thought he put into it. Plus it is beautiful and totally me. We would rather spend our money on wedding vands instead of an extra ring

View Quoted Comment I really like that idea were wanting a simple ring anx wedding so that works for us

My fiance also proposed spur of the moment. He didn't have a ring or pick one out.... we were really young (he was 20!) so He was kind of like well what now? We talked about the ring and I picked out a white sapphire and silver ring on Zales clearance. It was pretty and under $100. Eventually he saved and got me an "upgraded" ring that he picked out and surprised me with. But even if it's a Zales clearance ring, it'll still mean a lot! Just talk about the "next steps" with him and decide if a ring is important. If it's not terribly important but you'd like to skip the awkwardness, you could always buy yourself an inexpensive ring if that's something you'd be okay with

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So, this is just my personal opinion and I don’t project this onto anyone. I think other people’s rings are beautiful and if their fiancé wants to propose with one, then that’s just wonderful. Disclaimer done.

Back to the ring...I didn’t realise that my FH had been asking questions for months trying to get my reaction on what I would want. We had a deep discussion about diamonds and how much I hate them (but not even pertaining to rings, just in general). And we also talked about why I think rings at a wedding ceremony are important.

From these conversations, he decided that it didn’t need to be a crazy expensive ring and that I would want a ring to “seal the deal”. So, when he proposed, he used a $10 mermaid fin sterling silver ring. Perfect! I love mermaids and all nautical things and having a fancy ring wasn’t important to me.

He even told me, “I know it’s crappy, you don’t have to wear it, I don’t want you to be embarrassed”. But I’m am literally never taking that ring off. I’m even getting a tattoo of it on my ring finger since I won’t be able to wear it with my wedding band.

And since I got a ring to seal the deal, I’m getting him something special to represent our engagement.

Very long story short, it sounds like you love your fiancé so much the ring didn’t really matter in the moment, but that you would still like something to show that you’re engaged. To have that momento. Why don’t you say something like, “You know what would be nice? What if we both went and got rings to wear for our engagement? I’d like to have something on my finger that says to the world ‘I’m taken’”. Or something like that. Maybe he would rather a watch or a personalized grilling set, I don’t know.

I get not wanting to offend him. But if it’s something you want and something that is important to you, you have to tell him. It will just eat at you otherwise. But no one I going to judge you for not having a ring. At least not here! It’s 2018, times are changing. Proposals are changing. The important part is the proposal and that you’re planning a future together. And congratulations!

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A ring doesn't make you engaged, but I can understand how it may be awkward when someone asks you about it. If you're not comfortable just having an open and honest conversation with him about it, I would bring it up by saying that you're thinking about purchasing a silicone ring to wear until the wedding and see what he has to say about it.

You could do what I did, still am until I get my actual ring. But we got a little promise ring (just a silver ring with a simple rose on top) for me to wear until we finally found one that I liked and he could afford. We only recently found one at JCPenney (on sale because it was "last year's style" or something, it's super pretty), and he wants to do a proper proposal (him asking was spur of the moment), so I have no idea when I'm getting it. Lol.

My fiancé proposed to me in Cancun in a sacred place called chichen itza were it was probably 90 degrees. It was so romantic because i was carrying our 9 month son but he didn’t have a ring. Its September and still no ring im staring to worry because i have no ring and sometimes when we are out he mistakenly sometimes called me his girlfriend instead of his fiancé. He said a ring cost alot of money but i don't want a hundred of dollars ring i don't care if it even cost $40 dollars i just want my ring. Is it to selfish of me?? I really liked that he proposed in Cancun but still 2 months and no ring. I need help!!