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Devoted October 2020

Engaged and no one knows

Tabitha, on March 21, 2020 at 9:49 AM Posted in Planning 0 6

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Hi everyone. So my fiancé and I started talking about getting married last year. This past February we started ring shopping and we got my rings and I bought his. I jumped on looking at venues to kind of get a head start because we agreed to wed this October.

Problem is he’s really family oriented. He told his family and my family that he wanted to propose to me at his birthday party April 4th. Well with this virus spreading and the no gathering over 10 ppl kind of puts a stop to everything. Yesterday I stayed in bed depressed all day because I really want to be able to talk to friends n family and officially plan my wedding (and wear my ring). I tried convincing him to do FaceTime and he’s not budging. Any advice on what to do?

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Devoted October 2020
Tabitha · on March 21, 2020 at 9:51 AM
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Sorry about the typo in title.
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Champion June 2019
Gen · on March 21, 2020 at 11:44 AM
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If you guys are already planning your wedding and you have your rings and you know when he is going to “propose” at this point it honestly just seems like the proposal is a show for your families which feels a little phony imo. At this point I would just announce to your family!
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VIP September 2020
Willow · on March 21, 2020 at 1:27 PM
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I'm a little confused. You already have the rings. You already have a tentative date. Your bf already told everyone who matters that he will be proposing on your 4/4 birthday. Because of the pandemic, your big birthday party won't happen, therefore your bf won't do the proposal? Not even with Facetiming his family? Did I get that right?

This is incredulous. At this point, the proposal is just for show. Call him out. Call him out for caring about his ego over your feelings. During these scary and uncertain times, having a ring on your finger would brighten your mood. And yet your bf insists on putting that off because he wants to put on a big show for everyone?
That's BS. I get wanting your family at a wedding. But we're talking about a proposal. FaceTime is a reasonable compromise. Tell him you'll start wearing the ring, start wedding planning, and he can put on his big show later if he wants.
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Devoted October 2020
Tabitha · on March 21, 2020 at 2:11 PM
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Yup you got it right. I totally agree if his family see him out the ring on my finger than it should be done via FaceTime at this point.
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VIP October 2020
Ingrid · on March 21, 2020 at 3:57 PM
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I understand both sides, the proposal is a big deal for the guys too, and we as women can fail to realize that. My fiance had my ring for 7months before he proposed and we were already planning our wedding. I became really anxious and frustrated but calmed down once he reassured me that he had a plan in place. Go with the flow, enjoy the time you have because everything will fast forward strangely when the ring is on your finger.
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Devoted October 2020
Tabitha · on March 21, 2020 at 4:02 PM
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Yes, I think it’s a big deal for guys too especially when they’re family oriented. He’s the only son so I get a lot of things he want his family to be a part of. I’m just frustrated with not really being able to plan and shop they way that I want to because of this virus.
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