Ending a 1 sided friendship over stupid things

“I have given it a lot of thought and I don’t feel comfortable associating with someone who believes I may be racist. I think it’s time for us to move on from this friendship.” My first instinct would have been to tell her off immediately after she said that but I can understand why you didn’t.

You can say something along the lines that you think its best that you both take time away from your friendship since its becoming an unhealthy relationship. I would treat it like a BF/GF breakup. It will not be easy and painless, but you will have to rip the bandaid off. I wouldn't leave her hanging cause thats a feeling anyone deserves when a brief conversation can take care of it.

I recently had to “break up” with a best friend. It hurt. Felt like a divorce at first, but now I am so much happier. The negativity was affecting my entire life.

just tell her politely that you can’t do it anymore. She will likely react badly but stand your ground.

This person sounds like someone who can't be reasoned with, a very radical person in terms of her political views. The type of person who thinks if you don't agree with them, you're a racist, bigot, etc. Sounds like she has a lot of growing up to do in how she sees the world, and unfortunately there's nothing you can do about that. She's immature and close-minded. Aside from this situation, she doesn't sound like a good friend to begin with. I think this was just what you needed to make the leap in deciding she isn't the type of person you want to be friends with. It sucks to lose people, especially close friends, but toxic relationships are always best to get rid of.

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You hit the nail on the head and this is exactly what my FH said. This is what has truly pushed me over the edge and I think I need to jump ship so to speak. Thank you for your kind words and advice.

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Yeah if it's anything like last night, I know this is going to end badly.

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Oh I wanted to but I try hard to deal with her with kid gloves most of the time. But I think this was is just too much and I can't do it anymore. Last night was the first time I have ever disagreed with her. Usually I just say ok a lot to what she says, but this is truly not going to work for me anymore.

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Thank you! I will message/ talk to her later today. Still trying to clear some of the fuzz from last night. I have a feeling this isn't going to go well but I'm past the point of caring.

I would definitely drop this friend. It sounds like she went out of her way to say something that would strike a nerve and then insult you for not agreeing with her. She's probably not going to stop this behavior so I agree that the friendship probably won't last even if you guys do end up making up over this particular argument. It's very possible to be friends with people that have different views without insulting them, making assumptions or calling them names but apparently your friend doesn't see that. Plus, if this is a one sided friendship, she will make a terrible bridesmaid.

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I agree, that's why I kept saying "let's agree to disagree" I went and looked I said it 5 times during the conversation. I try not to discuss politics with friends because it's just so messy. This behavior has been ongoing for awhile. My FH can't stand her, but doesn't want me swayed by his opinion but the way she acts and treats people really bothers him.

View Quoted Comment Okay.. soo my response has nothing to do with this post and sorry for anyone reading this thinking it might but sarah!! I love your quote on your profile picture did you have beaty and the beast at your wedding ? Just curious.. lol

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I agree with Amber. It’s unfortunate, but I 100% believe in cutting off toxic relationships, and this is exactly what she sounds like. I can’t believe she had the nerve to say that to you, that in itself would be cause for me to cut her loose. Sorry you’re dealing with this.

View Quoted Comment Thank you. It was a long day. I messaged her eventually telling her I dont feel comfortable about this. She doesn't understand why 1 fight would end a friendship. Its because she insulted my character and integrity. Not like she didnt like my outfit. She doesnt understand why she was out of line. I just know I cant do this with her anymore.

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Yea, people like that can’t be reasoned with. That is a huge insult and it’s not her place to “understand.” This is how you feel and she needs to just accept it. Kudos for sticking up for yourself and standing ground!

View Quoted Comment Thank you. I appreciate the kind words from everyone and the advice from everyone today

I had a friendship I ended because of similar reasons. Instead of saying anything and potentially having to deal with a nasty reaction i just ignored her. She called me a bunch of times, left really angry voicemails (understandable) and that was it. It happened 6 or 7 years ago and honestly I'm so happy I did it the way I did it.
This person was offensive and said really awful things to me and about me and about my family with a cover up of "caring". At some point enough is enough. At the end of the day i literally owed her nothing.