So I have a bridesmaid, where it has more or less always been a 1 sided friendship. As in I'm always there for her but not the other way around. Last night though I feel like I hit my breaking point and I'm not sure I can continue with this. Bare with me working on about 3 hours of sleep because of this.
My friend messaged me about how much the government screws over illegal immigrants, she works with a bunch of people at a restaurant that are illegal. Then when on about how wrong our country is and how the military is always wrong. This really struck a nerve with me, because A. I'm a little bit more conservative in my view points not staunchy but I am and I have my reasons (so not looking for a fight on politics) I always have kept my view points to myself and just feel it is easier and best for friendships to agree to disagree and then move on and away from politics. Second, my FH and his family all have served in the military so I took offense to her saying that. I asked her to please not speak poorly on the military, as this bugs me and why. She just kept going about how wrong I am, and accused me of being racist. I have never equated my semi-conservative views with this. I feel she crossed a line. At that point I said lets just let this one go and agree to disagree for the sake of our friendship. She said no you have hurt me. Even though I never said anything bad about her or her views, yet she thinks its ok to say whatever she wants about mine and I have to be ok with that. I'm sorry but we can have different views and still respect the different view points. She told she me lost all respect for me.
I have always been there for her, listened to all her problems which is like a daily thing now. Yet when I have issues (not involving wedding planning, I don't even discuss that with her) she is never there for me. I think I am done with this. It's time to move on from this friendship, my FH agrees with me and thinks it would be best; since when she comes to me with her problems I take them on and my FH worries about me doing so. I'm so sad that this friendship is coming to an end but I think it might be for the best. So any advice on how to end this friendship or is it already over?