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Encouraging words

Tori, on June 18, 2018 at 9:47 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 18

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For all of you so eager to call it quits and throw in the towel on your relationships because everything isn’t “perfect”...here is some food for thought. Lifelong commitment is not what most people think it is. It's not waking up every morning to make breakfast and eat together. It's not cuddling in bed until both of you fall asleep, peacefully, at night. It's not a clean home filled with laughter and lovemaking, everyday. It's someone who steals all the covers (and snores!). It's slammed doors and a few harsh words, at times. It’s stubbornly disagreeing and giving each other the silent treatment until your hearts heal...and, then...FORGIVENESS! It’s coming home to the same person, everyday, that you know LOVES and CARES about you in spite of (and because of) who you are. It's laughing about the one time you accidentally did something stupid. It's about dirty laundry and unmade beds WITHOUT finger pointing. It's about helping each other with the hard work of life! It's about swallowing the nagging words instead of saying them out loud. It's about eating the cheapest and easiest meal you can make and sitting down together late to eat because you both had a crazy day. It's when you have an emotional breakdown and your Love lays with you and holds you and tells you everything is going to be okay...and you BELIEVE them. It's about still loving someone even though, sometimes, they make you absolutely insane. Living with the person you love is not perfect ...sometimes it's hard; but it's amazing and comforting and one of the BEST things you'll ever experience!

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Latest activity by Jessica, on June 19, 2018 at 8:03 AM

Super September 2018
Allie · on June 18, 2018 at 10:18 AM
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Very well said, and thank you for sharing, I hope everyone who is on this venture to get married sees this and knows that those vows arent temporary,... and marriage is supposed to be forever! Also if you dont have a good foundation NOW before the I DO, marriage will NOT fix it but make it worse! Build now, for a happy marriage later
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Mrs. Fall Bride · on June 18, 2018 at 10:19 AM
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Who is "so eager to call it quits and throw in the towel on their relationships"? This is a wedding planning site, in case you hadn't noticed, as in people planning their forever commitments...
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Champion November 2016
LB · on June 18, 2018 at 10:22 AM
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Was thinking the same thing. Is this in response to a specific thread OP?
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Savvy June 2019
Tori · on June 18, 2018 at 10:24 AM
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I know exactly what the site is I'm also planning a wedding. I didn't post this because of the first sentence. It entire body of the message that was a great read.
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Master October 2016
Mrs. Fall Bride · on June 18, 2018 at 10:26 AM
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Lol "a great read" ok...
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Savvy June 2019
Tori · on June 18, 2018 at 10:28 AM
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Listen ladies I didn't make the post up. I saw it and thought it was a great read. Don't let the first sentence scare you
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VIP September 2018
BB-H · on June 18, 2018 at 10:36 AM
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So, you didn't type this? You shared it?
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Savvy June 2019
Tori · on June 18, 2018 at 10:37 AM
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Yes, I shared it.
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Champion June 2018
muriel · on June 18, 2018 at 10:41 AM
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Do you seriously believe there are any number of people on this site "ready to throw in the towel on your relationships because everything isn’t perfect".
It comes off as more than a bit condescending.
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VIP September 2018
BB-H · on June 18, 2018 at 10:45 AM
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I guess I could understand it if it was your own personal experience and you were sharing it with us. But usually I'd imagine that if someone is getting married and ready to throw in the towel over some of the things that you described, then they're truly not ready to be married. The sentiment was nice though.
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Champion November 2016
LB · on June 18, 2018 at 10:48 AM
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The first sentence doesn't scare anyone lol it's just all kinda odd...
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Master October 2016
Mrs. Fall Bride · on June 18, 2018 at 10:53 AM
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This might be slightly less weird if OP started off with "hey, just wanted to share an article I read on X site"...
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Savvy June 2019
Tori · on June 18, 2018 at 11:05 AM
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I wasn't trying to be mean, condescending, weird, or discouraging. I thought it was a good read because we sometimes forget about the day to day life of being married.
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B11 · on June 18, 2018 at 11:15 AM
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The message is nice, but I don’t think you’ll come across many people on here that are “so eager to call it quits.” We’re adults that understand the seriousness of the commitment of marriage. If we were ready to end the relationship, I don’t think we’d be on a wedding planning forum.
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Master August 2019
Tpatb · on June 18, 2018 at 12:40 PM
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Well lol this went left. While I agree with PPs at the same time I have seen a few people post struggles in relationships on here & they are hard period. So, it may not apply to many but maybe there could be someone who is obsessing about every little detail or issue in the wedding planning & it’s reflecting on the relationship 🤷🏽‍♀️ (Idk lol just guessing for kicks & giggles) while someone shouldn’t be ready to “call it quits” AND still plan a wedding (bc obviously they need to sort things out & that’s just foolish) maybe someone needed to see this..maybe it would’ve came off easier if you’d stated you found it & the reason for sharing bc it was wrote as if you were giving advice lol but I understand where you were coming from
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Expert May 2018
LIZ · on June 18, 2018 at 1:07 PM
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I love it, and so true. However, I wouldn't trade my married life for anything!
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VIP March 2019
SB · on June 18, 2018 at 1:30 PM
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Agree with this! While some people may see it as a silly post, there could be someone out there that really needed to see this. Not everyone is in the same boat.
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Just Said Yes July 2018
Jessica · on June 19, 2018 at 8:03 AM
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Hey OP, I get it!!! Wedding planning is stressful af, and that can turn into 'AHHH why am I doing all this?!' IMO, this post is a nice reminder of why you're doing all this planning, to enjoy life with that special someone although it may not be "perfect" everyday. Don't know why people are being butthurt about one sentence. Thanks for sharing the reminders Congrats & Good luck!
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