Embarrassed and upset about lack of my side of the family showing up.

I am so sorry you are dealing with this! I have much more family that will be attending than my FH does, and just many more guests that are "mine" in general because I have a lot of family friends (like my mom's friends who I've known my whole life, and their kids, and their kids' SOs lol, so that adds up). So I guess I have the opposite problem as you, but I felt really bad that my FH had such a small proportion of the guest list!

What he has said though, as the person with less family and with fewer guests in general, is that he isn't even thinking of it as "my guests" and "his guests." They are all OUR guests. My family is his family too!

Try to remember that although his family may not be blood related to you, they are your family now too (or they will be at your wedding) and that they are there to celebrate both of you!

My husband had the same problem that you did. It caused some fights between us because he was upset. Which I completely understand. We talked it out and I just told him that he has to think about it this way, all of my family is his family now too and they have loved him like family since we started to date.

I do not fully understand how it feels but I know it hurts, but I do not think anyone will think badly of your family. The people who love and care you both the most will be there to support and celebrate with you! Really though at the end of the day you get to marry your FH and start a family just the two of you together!

Hope this helps a little.

Just remember that the people that are there will be celebrating you. You care about it the most, and if other's notice- they won't blame you.
Have you talked to your own family to confirm this or are you just taking someone else's word for it?

My fiance was worried about this as well because he feels like his family doesn't support each other likes mine does. My family just loves and reason to celebrate. Since he keeps to himself most of the time anyway, I told him it's ok if not everyone shows up, because the most important people to him will be there. Plus, I don't plan on having sides at the wedding. People will be mixed up and ceremony seating will just say pick a seat.

My FH found out he's not having any family come and the only people that are coming that he knows and I dont are his friends from work which about 5 total. We moved to Nashville from Philly so no one is coming from there. I'm from Arkansas so it's easier for my side. We have a sign that says there are no sides here, sit wherever you want. I didnt want the sides to look weird. My mom is walking him down the aisle. I have two bridesmaids and his groomsmen have backed out. I will have one bridesmaid stand on each side. FH said the only people he cares are being there are him and I. This is our journey and people that dont or cant be here for the wedding that's there problem not ours. I'm sure your wedding will be perfect because at the end of the day it's you and your future life partner.

I had the same issue, FH has a huge family and everyone was so excited. My side eh not so much - I had 10 people come out of 113. I had so many no's including my godmother who I thought I was close to. Here is the kicker my mother spent the entire time outside the barn getting drunk & telling everyone how she doesn't really like me or my little brother. So embarrassing. I wish she hadn't even come, when she was walking down the aisle she looked like she was in a funeral procession. When we were opening gifts only one of our of the 10 people on our side even gave us a card (my mother or god father did not) - I am not talking about $$ I am just saying just a card. I was mortified when H and I were opening the cards/gifts.

Be happy with all the love surrounding you! Focus on those that are truly happy for you and revel in the excitement of the day. It goes by way too fast! xoxo

I’m in the same boat. Other than my bridesmaids, I’ll have a small amount if any that will come

This post actually brought me a lot of comfort. My fiance also comes from a large family and grew up in the same state as all of his relatives. While my family is incredibly close, we are separated by quite some distance in terms of states and countries. After finalizing our seating chart, I realized that more than half of my side are those included in the wedding party. Members of his family complained about the distance of our venue, since we tried to pick a good location central to two of the main states. Now I am a bit embarrassed since only a couple of people are coming from said state. I agree with the other posters, you will have a good time regardless and everyone is there to celebrate your union-that includes you, not just your soon-to-be! Thank you for bringing some comfort to a mutually stressed bride with your post!

I'm getting married next fall, and out of 100 guests, 3 will be mine if I'm lucky. I moved from Southern Illinois to New York, so I have no one here. My parents and brother are in bad health. Those are my 3, and I doubt they can come. So 😔