Eloping

I might be an outlier, but if my friends were causing enough drama around my wedding that I felt like eloping was the only option, I wouldn't really care to have a reception to celebrate with them and I wouldn't care if they didn't like my decision. What kind of drama are they causing? Is it worth it to even be friends with these people if they're behaving in a way that doesn't align with your life?

View Quoted Comment The drama stems from me not wanting to include a specific person that’s in our friend group that my maid of honor is closer to than I am. So she’s trying to teach me a lesson on what it feels like to be excluded by intentionally excluding me from group activities and inviting my fiancé sister. The only thing I really care about is the people that I’m around for a time to celebrate me and my fiancé’s wedding. I know it seems a little heartless to not include her but she and I both know that we’re not close but for some reason it’s just causing an issue amongst the group

Its your wedding not your MOH so she doesnt get to decide who is in your wedding party. Try having a sit down talk with her.

It looks like you're over a year out from the wedding, so depending on how much you care to hang onto this friendship in the long term, how much money you've sunk into wedding planning, and what you really want for your wedding, it may be best to just let this blow over and focus on other things in the meantime. If you'd rather elope then that's totally your choice, but I wouldn't let a friend (who's totally overstepping by trying to dictate who should be included btw) upend your whole event.

View Quoted Comment In normal circumstances, I would cut her off but the issue with that is that her husband is one of my fiancés best friends. They’ve been friends since they were 4 years old. My maid of honor and I were the closest in the group but now I feel like I’m being pushed against a wall from all sides really. I’m just hoping someone has gone through the same BS experience lol

View Quoted Comment Based on this, none of them sound like friend material. Drop these people and find new friends who don’t play petty 6 th grade games.


If you are not close, don’t let anyone pressure you into anything you are not comfortable with. Mature adults do not behave like this.

View Quoted Comment

If this is the case, I think you really need to focus on what you want. I think it's fine if you and your FS want to elope, but if you'd rather have the big wedding, do it and ignore this girl. The fact that she's behaving this way is immature but I think it's even worse that your other friends seem to be going along with it. That's not friendship. You don't owe anyone an explanation for why you aren't including her. I would seriously re-think your friendship with this group of people and have whatever wedding you and FS want.

You're a long way from your wedding, and things do change.

Have you already asked everyone? If so, then you're kind of stuck. Un-asking them would probably cause more drama. : (