Eloping

I didn't elope but my coworker told me all about his. they basically decided that for the cost of having a wedding they could instead, go on multiple awesome honeymoons aha.

Ohh many many times... family is definitely the driving force... they are driving me insane... absolutely insane.
If we were further out I’d say screw it we’re not doing this anymore... it would just be us and a few good friends (just like when we got engaged.. NO FAMILY cause all they do is bring drama)

View Quoted Comment I agree. I have about 7 months to plan accordingly and I'm getting my Masters and im like this is a lot lol.

View Quoted Comment I can so see that lol.

View Quoted Comment I had to quit school about a year ago as I didn’t have the money and many other situations. I could not imagine going to school and planning a wedding. I will be going back to school the semester after we get back home.
we did a DW which helped a lot with most ppl, but some are canceling at last minute. My FMIL is inviting ppl, but wanting us to pay for them. FMILs friends are inviting themselves saying they will “surprise us” to me that is not a surprise and I will literally pack up and move the wedding to a new location if uninvited guests showed up. That may sound like a lot but her friends are crazy and really weird like... makes me very uncomfortable. FMIL has tried to wear white... and a cape that falls like a train.... and tried to wear all kinds of things that only a bride should wear.. has been a nightmare about getting a dress...
dont forget my moms new BF telling me to not get married unless I have to cause ya know we probably just get divorced. Oh and my family saying they aren’t going to the wedding a couple months ago..
so yes.... family has driven me up a wall... and if we have one more problem with family they will be told just not to come anymore.
I recommend eloping to anyone.... cause you think people won’t act out at YOUR wedding.... welp...

View Quoted Comment Omg that is a lot lol. It is all about you and your spouse at the end of the day so dont get too overwhelmed.

I am considering an elopement - the cost of weddings along with my desire to focus more on the HUGE AND SERIOUS commitment we will be making to each other(ya know, the whole reason your having a wedding!) are my two biggest reasons.

Spending thousand, if not tens of thousands, of dollars on a party seems so insane to me when we could pay off a chunk of a mortgage, get better vehicles, or put money in savings and retirements. I worry I'll have some sadness over not having the normal wedding fun but I'm having a seriously tough time justifying an all out wedding when I've never really dreamed of one and they cost so dang much.

I've been leaning towards an elopement or private ceremony so we can make the focus our commitment rather than hosting a party.

We're pretty sure we're eloping and having a small celebration at some point after. I'm not into the idea of spending thousands of dollars that I don't have on a wedding. I've long since outgrown the desire of a fancy wedding. The only wedding things I want is to wear a beautiful dress and some nice pictures taken. What really matters is that I'm marrying the love of my life.

Originally we wanted a small wedding, 25 people tops, but since we announced our engagement, it’s grown to 60 and that’s about 80% family. There’s people we don’t want at the wedding, and there’s a rift between some people we want there. My closest friends have been absolutely supportive about the date and venue, but some of my family have been giving us BS about both.
My mom has seen the stress I’ve been under and it’s only been a short time planning the wedding. She knows we’re more or less doing this bigger wedding for her, but after thinking about it, she’s giving us her blessing to elope...just last night. We’re going to talk with FH’s dad hopefully this weekend about everything and get his blessing as well. So now, we’re planning on going to an area we love for an elopement with only our immediate family and invite a couple of our closest friends.

I recently spoke with a wedding planner about having her agency design our wedding. I've been a fan of their work for years and pictured our wedding similarly. It was a bit of a rude awaking to learn that her services, along with my preferred videographer alone would take up more than 50% of my wedding budget! We're not keen on increasing the budget of the wedding so revisiting the idea of eloping seems like the best idea. I like the idea of stressing less, less potential for family drama, spending less overall and still being able to splurge on what we really want (location, decor, awesome photos, videography). I like to think of it as being a stylized elopement!

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Same here. I want to dress up and I want great photos to look back on...but pretty much everything else just scares me and makes me so stressed, overwhelmed and anxious!

I can't wait to marry My Amazing Man, and I have said to him that I would marry him dressed in a sack if need be. He is what I want, not a massive party full of people I barely know and haven't seen in years.

He has been married before, so he's done the typical big white wedding already, but I haven't.

Given that we are a long distance couple, as well as a pair of socially awkward introverts, elopement makes sense for many reasons.

The money we could throw on one day would actually be better spent on visas to make our marriage viable.

So, when it's all put into the balance, an elopement it will be.

We’re eloping! My fiancé and I have never dreamed of a large wedding. Neither of us enjoy being the center of attention, I’m not really a big dancer, and I don’t want to spend a year stressing myself out over the details of a single day.


We got engaged in October 2019, and will be eloping to the Redwoods in October 2020. We’ll have a small dinner party reception for our friends & family after the elopement, but I’m genuinely looking forward to our wedding day being what WE want rather than what our families expect.

I'm planning on this

My fiance and I, are also eloping. It will be a simple and heartfelt ceremony with just us and our 2 witnesses. I did buy a dress and he is going to wear a tux. This is our day and having been married previously, we look forward to an intimate moment together, without the stress.
Looking forward to a wonderful dinner out afterward. We are wedding in our home, on a Wednesday afternoon in Feburary

View Quoted Comment I love that idea

View Quoted Comment We initially started planning a small wedding. But we live far away from both of our families. Hell, we are in our 40's and honestly, just want to be married after over 4 yrs together. So we are having fun with it. No major pressures and all of the rewards. I am not sure how it could get any better

My FH and I are engaged and have been talking about just doing a courthouse wedding then having a "reception" later on. And we want to be married already because we just feel like it's right. I want his last name already.

Yes, I am eloping. The main reason is money! We basically had to decide between a house or a wedding, and we chose house!

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A woman after my own

I'm set on marrying somewhere outdoors. Ideally in a forest, but I am happy for a park too. We may even end up in his mum's backyard. Just so long as we're outside, I'll be pleased.