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Eloping with immediate family

Dylan, on August 1, 2017 at 11:00 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 4

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Hi guys,

So my fiance and I have decided we wanted to "Elope" because we have a little girl and don't want to have a traditional wedding because we have WAY too much family and it would cost us and them a fortune. We can't truly elope because we want our daughter there so we are going to have it at my stepmoms 6000 sq ft ranch home in Scottsdale, AZ. We're going to have it on her back patio that overlooks the desert mountains. Most of our immediate family (moms, dads, sibilings, and a few close friends) are going to attend. Is it okay if we don't do bridesmaids or groomsmen. I'm going to ask my sisters and 3 best friends to just be a part of the planning process for showers and bach party and to come to the ceremony but I don't think we.re going to have anyone stand beside us because space will be limited on the patio. Is this okay?

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Latest activity by Emily, on August 1, 2017 at 11:10 AM

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FME · on August 1, 2017 at 11:04 AM
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" I'm going to ask my sisters and 3 best friends to just be a part of the planning process for showers and bach party " No, please don't dot hat. It's no one elses job to plan your wedding but you and your FS. And showers and bach parties are totally optional and are not to be asked for.
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PandaInLove · on August 1, 2017 at 11:05 AM
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Bridal parties are definitely not a requirement. It's all up to you. Your plans sound nice. Glad you're including your daughter!
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Katy · on August 1, 2017 at 11:07 AM
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You can definitely skip the bridal party but don't expect anyone to plan a shower or bach party for you. I'm sure they will, they're your sisters, but don't pressure them to. Your wedding sound like it's going to be absolutely perfect.
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Emily · on August 1, 2017 at 11:10 AM
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No, you don't ask people to plan parties for you. They can offer to plan them if they want. Also, the only people invited to a shower or bach parties are people invited to the wedding. It is rude to invite someone to a pre-wedding party and not the wedding. So a very small wedding = very small pre-wedding parties.

Otherwise, your plan of an intimate wedding sounds great. You aren't required to have a wedding party.
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