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Just Said Yes July 2019

Eloping in a month but family wants party after?

Monet, on June 14, 2019 at 11:13 AM Posted in Planning 0 4

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Hi! So my fiancé and I are eloping in a month. It’s more of a very intimate, private ceremony as we will be only having immediate family (parents, siblings, grandparents, best man/MOH). We were just going to go out with those in attendance afterwards to celebrate with them but my family is insisting on throwing us a big party to celebrate with everyone that won’t be there for our ceremony. They’ve offered to pay for the entire celebration afterwards. My concern is that a month is not enough time to give people notice on a party, and my fiancé and I are not huge party people with big crowds and such, so a huge party wouldn’t reflect us at all. We’re all for dancing and having a good time but I’m concerned that this will just add stress to us because they are the ones that want this..but they offered to pay and plan for everything. We don’t really know what to do. Middle ground ideas??

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Latest activity by Isabella, on June 14, 2019 at 12:56 PM

Legend July 2019
MrsD · on June 14, 2019 at 11:20 AM
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I agree, it would be hard to plan an actual reception in a month. It would probably have to be on a weekday with either expensive vendors or vendors that aren't booked (which would concern me).
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Caytlyn · on June 14, 2019 at 11:21 AM
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If you don't want to have a big party, thank them for their offer and politely decline. You don't need to compromise on this, it's your wedding. If your main concern is not having enough time to plan, just push it out a few months. It doesn't have to be right after the ceremony.
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on June 14, 2019 at 11:28 AM
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Maybe you can think of a big party differently. Maybe it doesnt need to be a reception but a cocktail hour? Or something more casual
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Isabella · on June 14, 2019 at 12:56 PM
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If it's not what you want I would politely decline.
We are having a reception 2 weeks after we get married but it is something that we both wanted and for us we are about a year out so we have time to plan. That being said though we are doing a cocktail party with finger foods and no DJ/dancing, because it felt more casual and more "us". Like Caytlyn said though, there's nothing wrong with doing the party a couple weeks/months out from the ceremony.
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