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Just Said Yes September 2018

Eloping. Do we get our parents gifts?

Junebug, on January 23, 2018 at 8:45 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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I know when you get married you generally get a little something for each parent, like a nice handkerchief for your mom. Are we expected to get something for our parents if we elope? What about if we have a small, celebratory dinner when we come back? Do we get them something then?

I wanted to elope to avoid this kind of stress!

Much thanks in advance!

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Latest activity by WED18, on January 23, 2018 at 2:06 PM

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Jurnee · on January 23, 2018 at 8:47 AM
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It would definitely be a sweet gesture, but it's not required.
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VIP September 2018
Happy Hedgie · on January 23, 2018 at 8:53 AM
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Gifts are never required, even if you are having a traditional wedding. If you would like to do so then it would be a lovely gesture that I'm sure your parents would appreciate but, you are not obligated. Perhaps consider giving them a framed photo from your elopement ceremony and a letter thanking them for everything they've done throughout your life (if that would be appropriate for your relationship).
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Shannon · on January 23, 2018 at 8:59 AM
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I think an album of your wedding pictures or a nice framed photo would be great.
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Just Said Yes September 2018
Junebug · on January 23, 2018 at 9:28 AM
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We’re definitely giving everyone pictures! (The only reason to hire a photographer when eloping is so your parents won’t disown you, right? jk) I can’t imagine that they’ll be done by the time we have our dinner party, though. It’ll be about 2 weeks after.
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The Nuptials · on January 23, 2018 at 11:59 AM
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Honestly I'm not even getting parents gifts and we are having a large traditional wedding. They don't appreciate anything I have gotten them over the years ($$$&dollar, they always feel I should do more. And they scoffed at an engagement photo that was one of many parts of a Christmas gift. So we will give thanks in our thank you speech and move on. As a PP said, gifts are not required.
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WED18 · on January 23, 2018 at 2:06 PM
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Not required at all, not even if you have a traditional wedding.
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